Welcome Back Pluto DVD
Has anyone used this or seen it work miracles? I like the idea of a dvd re: PAS but I"m still not sure about the "rejected parent" having to put up with all sorts of disrespect as is recommended. Not to say that the rejected parent blows up at a child for being disrespectful, but firmly warns the child that this is not acceptable rather than just sitting there and being an emotional punching bag. . .which happens with or without the DVD.
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I've heard of it, saw a clip
I've heard of it, saw a clip and was not impressed.
IF it's designed to 'justify' bad parenting then, sure, the bad parents will sieze the opportunity and take the softly softly road to 'reconciling' with a child from whom they should NOT be alienated!
I think that when society started to dumb down parents and elevate kids to 'god' like status THIS planet went to hell in a hand basket...screw Pluto...this is EARTH!
Since when is it OK for kids to disrespect ANY of their parents or authority figures? Ohh bless the little cherubs they are having a 'bad day' or 'are tired' or any other bullshit justification put forward for outright bad behavior that is not nipped in the bud.
(puts soapbox away now}
I might get slammed for my statements, opinionated etc. Sorry I cannot cite cases, or references, there were too many to choose from and I did not want to isolate any of them. (tongue firmly in cheek) I thought twice about posting but...what the hell...
"scared of me" Meaning, of
"scared of me"
Meaning, of course, that you are the only adult in the picture that chooses to see through the child's bullshit. Of course a child will NOT be okay with that.
I saw clips of "Pluto" and it basically told the targeted aka rejected parent to never over react. That's good advice, but then it went further and basically implied that a parent should IGNORE the disrespect, albeit, parroted from the PASinator parent.
This does NOT work. I saw GG continue on with his "honey and sugar" act even though VD called him "stupid!" If I EVER had called my parent stupid. . .if GG had ever called HIS parent(s) stupid. . . hell if *I* ever called GG stupid. . . POW RIGHT TO THE MOON!!
I grew up in the country, on
I grew up in the country, on a farm albeit. We were taught to respect our parents and family AND any other adult!! I grew up with that "FEAR" as well, that fear that I would do manual labor on the farm if I even thought to disrespect anyone. Period. It kept me and my cousins in line!!
I am raising my DD to be the same. She knows I will NOT allow her to disrespect anyone. I have RAISED her to respect and to listen to adults. She says her pleases and thank yous and knows how to conduct herself in public and in private. Some would say I am 'strict' .. nah.. I saw I PARENT!!
Now, with that all said.. My SS's have NOT been taught ANY of the above. Its sad as can be!! They disrespect me right and left. If I ask them to do somehting they will just stare straight ahead, as if they cant hear me. It sux!
I watched some clips of the Pluto video as well, and even tho SS's BM is trying to alienate me and have the kids disrespect me, I just dont agree with the views on that video. Its a no show for me. Just my opinion.
There needs to be an
There needs to be an alternative. Basically court ordered TRADITIONAL parenting with biodad and the BM present!! Of course drastic repercussions (losing custody permanently and sterilization) for committing PAS would be helpful but DREAM ON!!