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Submitted by beebusdriver93 on Tue, 09/21/2010 - 11:31am

Has anyone on this site been in the situation of no mother in the picture...you are the mother figure...father not doing his part...child ruining your relationship...etc as we all talk about.....anyone had it work for you....has anyone gotten the father to step up and realize what he is doing isnt right...has he opened his eyes to see what he is doing for his child isnt helping her but in the long run hurting her?
Just a thought..doesnt hurt to ask....weighing my options!

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Tue, 09/21/2010 - 11:49am

I was the mother figure. BM was around, but saw SS rarely, irregularly, and never overnight. SO never really realized how much I sacrificed for the two of them until SS eventually pushed SO too far. Now SS is gone, and SO appreciates me more than ever. You might enjoy this...

http://www.steptalk.org/node/28782

I didn't want it to end up like this. I would have preferred SS to start behaving appropriately. To be clear, the vast majority of SS's issues were not anything to do with me - but his "the world revolves around me" attitude was at the root of them. Most of the time SS and I got along very, very well. But at the end of the day, SS proved that he was at heart all about SS. And SO would have none of it.

Good luck....

L

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Submitted by beebusdriver93 on Tue, 09/21/2010 - 11:59am

Its sad to say I feel sorry for him and his daughter and for the son for that matter....my bf knows he has it made..his kids have for once in their lives had a stable home life...for 2 years now they at least know where they are going to sleep...they have a routine in their lives...yet instead of him stepping up and growing some balls....he would rather throw us away over his evil child...I know his child and mine for that matter should always come first...but if our relationship is dying because he refuses to discipline his child and teach her right from wrong...theres a problem. I need to take my heart out this picture and stand on my own 2 feet and demand that things change..
I even went as far as to tell him once that some day he will be sitting on the sofa with his adult daughter the only person still sitting there beside him because even his son feel alienated from him because of her!

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Submitted by beebusdriver93 on Tue, 09/21/2010 - 12:08pm

Games...she is a game player to...how can I see it and he doesn't...she spent the night at her "new"best friend of the weeks house 2 nights in a row for the weekend. So she ask if this little girl can stay at our house the next night since it was no school on Monday...her father and I said we would think about it..so when she calls my phone back later to see the answer him and I decided not this time because we had things to do....that wasnt good enough...she hangs up with me and minutes later her dads phone rings...he was outside...so I answered and she was dumbstruck...she was calling him to get the answer she wanted...she plays these games all the time...i would tell her no to something...she would call him...and him not knowing that I already said no he would let her do what I just told her to do...in my opinion he should have said what did she say or let me ask her first...