Do your skids cry when it's time to go back to BM?
Lately SS6 has been crying and very upset when it's time for him to go home. He's never done this before. Is this normal? Or should we be concerned?
We have him EOWE and for a month this summer. Last weekend he was crying and upset. He was trying to hide it (and be tough) but I asked him what was wrong and he said he wasn't ready to go home. And just started sobbing. It broke my heart. DH calmed him down and reassured him everything will be ok. DH just kind of shrugged it off. This was the third time he did this.
We'll have him the long weekend, I just hope he doesn't get upset when it's time to go home.
Well that is heartbreaking stuff. It's so hard for young children to cope with the back and forth. At that age my SS started asking to spend more time with his Dad, I think it's hard for boys at that age because they start to feel a stronger attachment to their male role model. DH tried to do a few extra thing with him on top of the EOW and a night in the week schedule, but BM made things difficult at times and DH was nervous about stirring up conflict. SS6 actually had to tell his mother himself that he wanted to see his Dad more. I felt that both parents should have done more to respond to SS's need for Dad time - he was 1 of 5 and the only boy so even when he was at his Dads he by no means got exclusive attention. My advice is for your DH to talk to his son midway through one of his weekend visits, when he is happy and calm, and offer some reassurance and understanding and explore whether his son needs some extra Dad time, or whether it is purely an adjustment issue not wanting to leave when time is up.
No, SS9 cries when it's time to leave Mommy Dearest. And cries all frickin' weekend when he's here. We're mean because we force him to -gasp!- make his bed and pick up after himself, and we don't buy him fast food three meals a day. The horror!
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Do your skids cry when it's
Do your skids cry when it's time to go back to BM?
Lately SS6 has been crying and very upset when it's time for him to go home. He's never done this before. Is this normal? Or should we be concerned?
We have him EOWE and for a month this summer. Last weekend he was crying and upset. He was trying to hide it (and be tough) but I asked him what was wrong and he said he wasn't ready to go home. And just started sobbing. It broke my heart. DH calmed him down and reassured him everything will be ok. DH just kind of shrugged it off. This was the third time he did this.
We'll have him the long weekend, I just hope he doesn't get upset when it's time to go home.
Well that is heartbreaking
Well that is heartbreaking stuff. It's so hard for young children to cope with the back and forth. At that age my SS started asking to spend more time with his Dad, I think it's hard for boys at that age because they start to feel a stronger attachment to their male role model. DH tried to do a few extra thing with him on top of the EOW and a night in the week schedule, but BM made things difficult at times and DH was nervous about stirring up conflict. SS6 actually had to tell his mother himself that he wanted to see his Dad more. I felt that both parents should have done more to respond to SS's need for Dad time - he was 1 of 5 and the only boy so even when he was at his Dads he by no means got exclusive attention. My advice is for your DH to talk to his son midway through one of his weekend visits, when he is happy and calm, and offer some reassurance and understanding and explore whether his son needs some extra Dad time, or whether it is purely an adjustment issue not wanting to leave when time is up.
No, SS9 cries when it's time
No, SS9 cries when it's time to leave Mommy Dearest. And cries all frickin' weekend when he's here. We're mean because we force him to -gasp!- make his bed and pick up after himself, and we don't buy him fast food three meals a day. The horror!