More fun & games with H. But at least SD17 is out of the picture.

Bear with me, gals. I now have 4 applications out for jobs, with in a 50 mile radius of here. Surely I'm going to land one of them. I've never struggled like this to get a job before in my life! One is only temporary, and requires extensive travel, but it's better than nothing, right?

Anyway, on to H. I mentioned before that the IRS has been garnishing his wages-because that's what he told me. LIE. It's the state that is doing the garnishment. The IRS is the one taking his federal tax return ($3,900). So, I now have found out that H owes the IRS an undisclosed sum, owes the state somewhere around $40,000 in back taxes, and of course, the county for the house taxes for the last 7 years. :jawdrop:

Life just keeps getting worse with him. And he tries so hard to manipulate me, tries so hard to act like a little boy who doesn't understand how this could possibly be, and how it's not his fault he didn't know about any of these debts before we got married. I just looked at him and said "If it looks like shit, smells like shit, it probably is shit".

So work called him back. No layoff at least this week. BUT the state is garnishing his paycheck by now 50%.

And savings is gone-to pay the back taxes on the house. Nearly $6,000. And I'm sure he's going to try to weasel a big graduation gift for SD17. NO. Unless, of course, I get hired, then he can give her whatever his heart desires, he can give her his whole paycheck, because it won't affect me because he won't be living with me.

So on to SD17. I told H there were two people here who I had faith in when we married-one was H, the other was SD17. And both of those people threw it in my face. I also told him I will not be attending her graduation, since she and H decided my son was not worthy of an invitiation, that she is not worth me bothering to attend. He informed me that that will be fine with her, because she dislikes me as much as I dislike her.

I'm relieved on one point-I will not have to spend this summer watching her prance around my home, sitting on H's lap, trying to order me around here. But once again, he missed the point. Miss To Good For dislikes me now because I stood up to her, and knocking at the door when she comes is just far to much to expect of her.

At least she's one less problem for me now.:smile:

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I think I mentioned this before..

I'm sorry BW but I think I already mentioned to you before that he was going to take that savings now you have nothing to fall back on. I think I also mentioned that you needed to get your hands on half of that money because he was going to spend it - and voila - he did!!! He did not consider your feelings or well-being for that matter - he only did for himself.

I pray that one of those jobs come through for you and you can kick his lying, pathetic ass to the curb.

Please post soon that he is GONE.

temp agencies

Have you checked with the temp agencies? In my area because the economy is so bad only the temp agecies are hiring.. Many times the temp jobs will turn into permanent postiions. Since you have banking expeience you could easily make 20 an hour working temp for a bank.

Temp agencies-there are none here.

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

I spent an hour and a half last week with workforce, trying to find a job. Very nice lady, and in fact the temporary job that requires a lot of travel is working for WIA, and she is recommending me for the position.

One of the other jobs is at the local hospital. I'm praying that having finished A & P, and having a financial background, will all be in my favor.

And ema, as dumb as it sounds, I agreed to him taking the savings for the back taxes on the house. He earned the money, and I just couldn't face myself in the morning if I did not agree to him being able to keep that house when the savings was not only mine but his. I know. That's why I'm in this mess in the first place-I have wayyy too much empathy, my moral code is far to strict.

I see

I just remember one of your posts where you were adamant about him not touching the savings. I feel so bad that that is gone because i was hoping that you would have something to fall back on just in case you reached your limit. Hang in there!

I know. I know it's stupid of me to allow this...but in the end

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

I have to live with who I am, that I am not the kind of woman who could sit and watch someone lose their house, regardless of why they (he) is losing it. That just feels wrong. I know my life is where it is today because I've never been able to put my needs first and I'm responsible for that.