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Last few years rant.

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Submitted by The big G on Thu, 07/03/2014 - 12:15pm

think i posted in the wrong place, on my phone.

Hi, I've not been on for a few years, muddling along as you do. Things weren't great but not unbearable until...

OH proposed and we are getting married. Since SD16 found out shes been hell on earth.

Shes a bridesmaid and threw the biggest tantrum ever when she found out she isn't chief bridesmaid. The way shes been acting shes lucky shes invited.

SD16 has also been abusive to DD6 and favours DD5 buying dd5 toys and giving them to her in front of dd6. SD16 has gone out of her way to cause arguments' in our family since she found out about the wedding. I've tried to involve her, let her choose the bridesmaid dress etc, I've invited her boyfriends family to the wedding at her request, but no matter what i do she seems determined to be miserable.

Since i started i might as well continue ranting....

Also SD16 has finished school now, i think she should get a part time job or do some chores is this unreasonable?

She is also leaving used sanitary towels in her bedroom for weeks on end, i refuse to clean them up and wont let my kids in her room. I get so paranoid that i am being unreasonable she also leaves toilet paper on the floor and dirty knickers around which she knows i find gross.

advice appreciated x

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Submitted by spittenfire on Thu, 07/03/2014 - 12:26pm

have a serious talk with FDH now! He needs to line this child out..... if he cant or wont.... think long and hard if u can put up with this behavior because unless he seriously puts his foot down it WILL NOT STOP!

Also throws fit about wedding..... sorry SD16 you can stay with BM for the wedding since your attitude is atrocious!

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Submitted by The big G on Thu, 07/03/2014 - 12:38pm

I've managed to post this twice, i agree with you, but i cant exclude her from the wedding. I have 2 close family members watching her on big day as i am expecting her to give some drama. I wish he would grow some balls. Kick her ass into line. It would be such a nicer atmosphere in the house. All i want is basic manners is that too much to ask?

ranting almost over x x

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Submitted by The big G on Thu, 07/03/2014 - 4:21pm

I don't get it, i remember being that age and terrified of my dad seeing anything that suggested my periods were due. Not sure if its a generation thing or if shes just plain manky :?

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Submitted by The big G on Thu, 07/03/2014 - 4:39pm

It has to be on purpose, she cant honestly enjoy living in such filth, she even lets her boyfriend see it, also her friends when they come in. (not my idea to let boyfriend in her room)

Nice yoga session tonight so relaxed and calm tonight. SD16 is hiding in her room, life is good. Even the empty tin of beans left in the fridge isn't phasing me as much as normal.

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Submitted by IslandGal on Thu, 07/03/2014 - 11:34pm

Holy shit! What a disgusting, revolting thing! I'd probably put on gloves if I thought I'd have to touch her at any time.

Pity you can't kick her ass out of the wedding, but as for those ridiculous tantrums she throws? Well, you can be the ultimte bridezilla and go crazy on her ass. Brides are allowed to get away with the most outrageous behaviour on their very special day and I would use that to act up in a monster way! Seriously drive her mental. Give her a HUGE list of menial tasks to do that would drive her batshit and keep on her ass to get it done.. anything that you hate doing but HAVE to organise/do for the wedding. I'm sorry I can't think of anything right now..been a while since I was married..

As for the little disgusting messages she leaves in the bathroom? Don super thick gloves, grab a pair of tongs, pick them up and dump them onto her bed. If that was my daughter, I'd be making her eat the damn things, I'd be that enraged.

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Submitted by The big G on Fri, 07/04/2014 - 1:09am

Almost tempting, but no way i trust her half assed working attempts for anything to do with the wedding. Christ she has been off school for 3 weeks and only don't the dishes twice. And both times u would think id asked her to saw her arm off. (neither time have been voluntary)

Bridezilla is a good idea Biggrin Shame she cant scrub the toilets at the venue.

Only plus is that my daughters are flower girls and its acceptable to get photos with the bride and groom with just the flower girls, so i will get at least one photo i really want with out sd grumpy assed face in.

On a side note, i do have a specific way i want the bridesmaids hair done, shes going to freak when she finds out (French plait with small crystal snowflakes) Any diplomatic ways to deal with it, with out murder options please Smile