BAD bio daughter!
Well, we know our bio-kids are not angels, but they are our own, which sometimes makes their actions MORE hurtful than the things our skids do. Per the usual, I got paid in cash from my boss (it's a VERY small business and we do get paystubs, but get our money in actual bills.) I usually go to the bank Saturday morning, to deposit. I gave SO $20 to pick up DQ after the kids went to bed last night (lol) and he brought me back my change. Next morning, we get in the car to run errands, and I start filling out a deposit slip and start recounting my money. I was $130 short! I started freaking out, thinking it somehow blew out of my purse, I tear my purse apart, not there. We go back home and I start checking the porch, the shelf where I keep my purse, the floor, NOTHING! I go into BD5's room and look under her pillow and find a $5 bill. I was livid, went back to the car and asked her where the rest was, and I got "I don't know, I didn't have it!" So she lied and played games with me. SO, myself, and her went back into the house to "look" for it, my daughter pretended to look for it, and then sat on her bed and watched. Finally, I was like, "If I don't see the money in the next 5 minutes I'm calling the police." And then she picked up a 3 ring binder from her bookshelf and inside the pocket was the other $100, the $20, and the five ones. WTF!?
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Wow, I couldn't imagine what
Wow, I couldn't imagine what a 5 year old would think to need/want that much money for. :jawdrop: Naughty. I hope she got sufficient pinishment that she'll learn never to do such a thing again...
Well, she is grounded for the
Well, she is grounded for the entire day, and we had a long talk about stealing and it being a crime, and she was informed the next time she takes money or anything else that does not belong to her, I will actually have the police come out. I don't know if that was the best way to handle it, but that was all I could think of.
I'm sure that took care of
I'm sure that took care of the problem. She's young enough to have had that make a HUGE impression on her.
I wonder why she thought she needed/wanted the money? Clearly she's too young to know how much $130 actually is. So she probably just wanted to have some money?
Grounded for A DAY?!? Wow. I
Grounded for A DAY?!?
Wow.
I would have taken her to the police station to talk to a cop about what happens when you steal.
One of my BS's was screwing around and burned something (I think he was 8ish.) Not a fire, mind you, a burn spot.
I marched his little ass to the police station to learn about the legal consequences and then off to the fire station to learn about physical/moral consequences. They even showed him pictures of burn victims.
Never. Happened. Again.
I don't think you handled it
I don't think you handled it badly at all. Relax Mom. I mean YES, this is SERIOUS, and I don't mean to imply that it isn't. But...I think most kids try this. My dd took some foreign currency from my mother when she was 4 or 5 - a friend from Norway had given it to my mom. She was made to give it back and we explained the concept of stealing and she got it and told her grandma she was sorry (and yes, I think she truly was). She never stole anything again.
When I was 4, I took some penny candy from a store. I had to return it and apologize and I got my butt beat - lesson learned.
I don't remember my son trying anything like that. He may have and I'm just not remembering it.
Anyway, for what a stranger's opinion is worth, I think you handled the situation well. I'll bet this will stick in your dd's mind and she will remember it and not repeat the infraction.
She tried to say that she
She tried to say that she wanted it for a "movie" at her summer program. There is a movie theater a few blocks from her summer program and a few times this summer they have walked there and seen a movie, and it is optional for kids to bring money to buy candy/popcorn/soda...etc. I knew about it and I never sent her money, and she never came to me and asked for money to buy any concessions. If she would have said, "Mom, I want some popcorn, can I please have money for movie day?" Then I probably would have just given her the money, or had her "earn" it. She didn't know how much the money was, but it was very wrong to steal from my purse and then lie about it after she saw how panicked I was.
I agree. Sounds like you have
I agree. Sounds like you have it all under control.
I think the major difference between when our own kids act that way vs. when the skids act that way is:
We actually have the power/control to handle it the way we want, instead of being held hostage by the situation.
I might try that taking her
I might try that taking her to the police station, now that I think of it. She has had issues with taking things that don't belong to her at school and at home, but never this serious. I am really ashamed of her behavior and the fact that it has affected both our family and other kids at school. I just get so stuck sometimes when it comes to giving consequences.