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Submitted by Bradymom on Fri, 11/29/2013 - 9:32pm

My husband I do EVERYTHING together. From showering, to going to work, to laundry, to going to bed at the same time. (We do things with our friends & siblings separate sometimes) ... But you get the jist. When my kids are here, it's the same. When his kids show up--- it's not at all. He starts a movie; doesn't tell me, makes food; doesn't make any for me... No consideration at all for me & our usual routine of things.

I know I sound like a bawl baby titty mouth... But it gets old, coming in and screwing with my happy place. Haha.

Does this happen with your family?

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Submitted by Bradymom on Fri, 11/29/2013 - 11:47pm

I told my husband a few months ago that I felt like the cook & housekeeper when his kids were there. Like I said we do everything together. And when his kids got here... That all ended. I don't mind doing dishes, cooking & everything else for my kids. They are thankful & help. His don't. Well. Ever since I said that. He's much more helpful when they are here. This will actually be our first Christmas with my kids, his & us all together for gifts. We've been together 4 years but with schedules in 2 CO it's not been together. It'll be interesting.

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Submitted by LostinSpaceandTime on Sat, 11/30/2013 - 1:01am

Perhaps he will truly get the message if the next time he is in the 'mood' you tell him sweetly that you started and finished without him. Since that is how he does things when his kids are around anyway.
Maybe then he will get the point.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 11/30/2013 - 5:10am

Maybe if he knows that it's not the spending time with his kids that you have an issue with, but rather that he doesn't at least tell you, then maybe he'll change.

I think he does need to spend time with his kids, but he should show you some consideration and at least tell you what he's planning on doing.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 12/01/2013 - 7:26am

Nope, it has never happened in our home. At least not when we are both home at the same time. My DW is the CP in our blended family adventure and the three of us (DW, SS and I) pretty much did everything together as a family.

Now that we are empty nesters DW and I still do most things together. We keep each other updated on any plans or changes to plans.

When I cook I make food for both of us and when she cooks she makes food for both of us. When the kid is home we feed him too..... if we feel like it. Wink

I think you have to sit him down and call him on this behavior. Let him know that you do not have an issue with him doing things with his kids but that since things are so much different when they are in your home that you at lease want some prior notice that you are on your own for dinner and a movie or for him to let you know that he is putting a movie on and making something for dinner. I find it rude that he seems to lose track of your presence when the Skids are in the home.

Just my thoughts and opionion of course.