For three times when I clean out drawers or rooms, just simple cleaning out broken toys, old drawings, outgrown or stained clothing, etc. The step kids go to bio moms & no crap--- my husband gets a text saying the kids are upset that step mom is changing things. I'm not throwing out precious memories! So this final time I text her personally, "I am cleaning out rooms & drawers, if you feel the kids are genuinely upset I will bag up the discarded things & bring them to you, for you to save things & go thru them with your kids." To my surprise she said "Yes, please do. Please don't throw anything away." So my husband & I drug out 8 full sizes trash bags to her front door. She was very thankful. Well 2 years have passed & I've cleaned rooms & drawers out every six months, with no guff from the step kids or bio mom. Perhaps she didn't feel it necessary to get her kids lone socks, pajamas with the crotches torn out, magazine clippings, candy wrappers, broken Mc Donald's toys, Barbies with custom hair cuts, dried up fingernail polishes, empty lotion bottles & a FULL SHOE BOX of the teen boys "pleasure" ewwww. I have to say my husband & I were very happy to drop the bags off with her, it saved us $ not having to go to the dump. This came up with the custody evaluator, we were told the bio mom has an obsession with our home & what goes on, stemming from it being their family home together. My husband bought her out of the home... They were divorced 4 years before we married & she is also remarried. Anyone have bio mom having an obsessive attachment to your current home?