As much as I'd like to disengage. I can't. I have kids. DH has kids. It's taken me a long time. 4 years. To get DH to parent the lil shits & require them to have better behavior. I feel like I've got to be there all the damn time bc they're always working him & old habits die hard. You may think I'm controlling. That's not my nature. At all. But I could see how it may sound that way. It's more me scared of it going back to how it was & we have made some progress. DH is easily guilted by the naughty pushy blessings. Before it was so off balanced. Rules for my kids. Anarchy for his. It was ridiculous. I dream of disengaging because they annoy me. Terribly. But if he even goes to pick them up alone (15 min) they come home with manipulated plans. DH is not firm with them & what we've agreed on... If I'm not there with him he doesn't always follow thru. We have talked about it. He says just that, old habits did hard.