This weekend was SS's first basketball game of the season (we won ) BM's Dad and Stepmom pulled in the parking lot at the same time we did. I sent SS over to say hello to them and they walked in behind us. DH, the girls and I sat down in our normal spot, and they set their stuff down a little ways down from us. BM wasn't there, yet. Her dad came over and started talking to us about our new house (BM must have told him) talking about his house and how much he paid for it 8 years ago. Just literally chatting it up for about 15 minutes. Mine while, BM shows up and sits down near where they put their stuff her stepmom was there so she said hi. Dad was done chatting with us and walked right past her, looked at her and didn't say a word. Just kept walking. WE mentioned to him that SS had baseball games later in the afternoon, in a town about an hour away from ours (he lives an hour further than that). After basketball stepmom says we may or may not see you at the games later.

Few hours later, SS's first game was in the 4th inning. Here comes her dad and stepmom. No BM. They say hi and go sit down. Stepmom comes over at some point and starts asking how SS is doing in school, how he is dealing with the new custody changes and goes on to tell me that 2 years ago BM's dad gave her 1/2 of his yearly income through out the course of the year. :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: He was paying her rent, her utilities, putting gas in her car, you name it. She went on to tell me that they are happy to see SS is with us full time and he needs the stability that we provide him. She expressed her concern that he was having to deal with BM when she is so unpredictable and knows that he stresses about her. She asked if they could pick SS up from school and spend time with him after school if they are ever just passing through town. OF COURSE! She said that he was only up at their house once last year... and I was the one that took him. These are good grandparents we are talking about here. SS LOVES them so much. He used to spend so much time with them, BM doesn't want to deal with her dad asking what is going on in her life, or questioning if she has a job... so she doesn't keep in contact with them.

A while later her dad came over and just talked. Told me how he used to live right up the street from where we were watching SS's games. Just talked, like he was... my dad. It was comfortable. Seemed very normal. Later that night SS asked if we could all go to dinner up at his grandparents house. I thought it was cute. And at this point, probably not completely out of the question. These people hated me just a few short years ago. The first 9 years of my relationship with DH they didn't say ONE WORD to me if they saw me. Man have the tables turned.