We were sitting around the dinner table last week, SS went to tell me something and "Mom..." slipped out. He stopped what he was saying, laughed and then just kept on with his sentence. From that point on, he called me mom several times. It is intentional. He has had a nickname for me since he was 1, it's not anything like "MOM", it is more like a rendition of my first name, but no one would ever know that unless you knew SS when he was learning to talk. It's just how my name came out back then and it stuck. Doesn't sound ANYTHING like my name. We get strange looks very often from people that don't know us. He has never called me by my ACTUAL first name, nor has he ever called me mom.

BM didn't call him for New Years. SS had a baseball tournament this weekend. We had to stay in a hotel. We were just gone overnight Saturday to Sunday. BM was made aware of it a few weeks back, but she doesn't care. She called SS's cell phone yesterday morning at 10:30, SS was warming up for his game, he didn't see her call. She left a message that said "just calling to see what you are up to today call me when you can". He had a break between games from 12:30-3. We went and grabbed some lunch and walked around a nearby store. He had plenty of time to call her back, and I know he saw her missed call, he had his phone in front of his face while we were eating. He didn't call her back. Then, we were driving home last night around 630, SS was in the front seat, I was driving. He doesn't know that I noticed this happening. His phone rang, but it was on silent. He saw it, saw "mom" on the screen and audibly grunted "ugh", and hit ignore. She left a message "Hi SS, it's Moooommmm. Tomorrow is Monday, I want to see you. Call me back. I am going to call your dad or BSGoinon too to see what your plans are". When we got home about an hour later SS text her and said "we are in the car, I'll talk to you later". We weren't in the car anymore. He never called her back. BM never called DH or me to "see what his plans are". And SS had a friend stay the night last night. So I doubt he will be jumping on any plans that she has to see him today. This particular friend isn't allowed to go anywhere with BM. His parents don't trust her. (most of his friends aren't allowed to go with his mom, they have all seen her behavior over the past year).

I am not going to force him to take her calls. I won't tell him to call her back. She is making no effort. He is old enough to answer his phone if he wants to, or to return calls. And she makes no effort to coordinate with DH or I to see him. Not my problem.