My DH is about to enter into a zone that is going to be a nightmare for us for a few months. Not that it hasn't been for the past two years but now that he has turned all his paperwork into his lawyer I fear BOTH BM's are going to come uncorked. We have one who just ignores his lawyer but disappears. Last time he had to retain him BM #2 disappeared for 6 months. BM #1 has always ruled the roost. And because he has been saying no recently she has already pulled out the dirty cards and the no you can't talk to your kids crap. Among SEVERAL text messages stating her personal reasons as to why he can't have contact with the kids. OF course it all stems from $$$$$ and the fact that we didn't take SD17 on our summer vacation that was ONLY 2 freaken days to a water park. UGH........... regardless of this my DH is so sad. Not being able to talk to his kids is wearing him down. He is very worried what she is telling them. He just keeps saying when will I be able to talk to my kids? When is the next time I will be able to see them? I don't have those answers and his lawyer keeps telling him this is going to get worse before it gets better. Which I know that. All the things that are being thrown out about me being an "unfit" parent or not a good role model or a bitch... and him being called a liar etc. The man is not a liar. I swear he believes if he lies God will strike him where he stands. Her four page text messages of calling him names and pointing fingers is draining his emotional state. Now she is emailing. She told him she will only email or talk on the phone now. She isn't playing HIS games. Seriously? What games? He texts and says "please have the kids call me" and that's games? He is suppose to be able to talk to his kids 3x a week without her dumbass listening.

I guess I am feeling drained. I am feeling like there is all this drama in my life and it all is stemming from him and his BM's. I have nothing in my own life. My ex and I have simmered down. There hasn't been issues with us for 2 years now. No drama. The only time we talk is when there is an activity going on with our son. Other than that no words are ever exchanged. And it is a wonderful. I guess I just am looking at things like every day I sit and stress. EVery time DH's phone goes off I feel sick to my stomach. Every time it rings I feel sick. Every time he calls me at work I feel sick...... I think I need to tell him that what ever they say about me I just don't want to hear it anymore. And unless his attorney thinks it will matter when we go to court I feel better just not knowing. I went through hell with my divorce. The name calling the dragging each other through the mud. The lies. The drama. I spend my 20's in a full on war with my ex. I am NOT wanting to exchange my 30's for all of this all over again. I just do not know what to do.