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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 3:38pm

As I wrote previously SD moved out on her 18th bday. She said that she couldn't live one more day under our roof. However she came back over the very next day and she couldn't afford gas in her car so hubs gives her our credit card. YES our credit card to put gas in her car. I didn't even know this until I saw our statement. Do you think she may have put in a few dollars in order to get her to where she needs to be and had money herself? No she fills her tank. Then the very next day she is posting photos of her tattoos on Facebook and Instagram. So she had enough money for tattoos but not for gas? I was furious. Now SD has been out of our house for over a month and it has been amazing. She came back once to show off her new tattoo she only showed us one b/c the other one is in a private area but yet she posted it on Facebook and Instagram for the world to see. I haven't seen nor spoken with her since Christmas Eve and I am completely fine with that. Today I get a text from her asking me for free tickets to an event at my work. I responded back "Nope, sorry"

Sorry you had it so rough at our house. The pictures on Facebook and Instagram really show you are having a great time getting drunk and high every day. If you can afford to pay for beer, cigarettes, pot, tattoos and god knows what else you can afford the $13 to get into the event.

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Submitted by moving_on_again on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 3:42pm

I hate to say it but I am so relieved that SS17 decided not to live with us. I was so stressed during that period because every time he would talk to BM there would be drama.

And I think you are doing the right thing, you want to act like an adult, you can be an adult.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 3:55pm

Every week when SD was with us it was a huge fight. I honestly thought about taking my daughter and going to live at my parents house while she was staying at our house. But then I thought about it and was like why would I move out of my house that I pay for because of her.

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Submitted by moving_on_again on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 3:56pm

I threatened to move out once and that's when DH told the skids they didn't "have" to come to our house, that it was their choice. He said he wasn't letting BM ruin 2 families. I swear, the skids are decent as long as they don't talk to her or live with her but she always bribes them back.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 4:02pm

SD21 and SD24 (DH's step) only contact DH when they want money. SD24's husband makes more money than DH, but she still considers DH to be a freakin' ATM. Thank you, BioHo!

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Submitted by stepper47 on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 11:17pm

DH and I were literally just talking about this a half hour ago regarding my SD14. It has been a rocky 6 months or so and she has not been coming over for her scheduled time (he has 50/50 agreement). I have noticed for a while, but this week he has realized that she only comes around or even responds to him if she has something to gain. For example, he was so happy that she called him wanting go do something on Monday...that something was going to buy her some new leggings. Today would be her normal day with us, and he texted her earlier to see if she was coming and asked that she at least come over for dinner. She said she wanted a certain restaurant, but he told her we were already planning to make tacos. She stopped responding after that, until she called at 9 saying she was dropping by to get some stuff and barely spoke when she came in. Upset that she didn't get her dinner choice? Don't know. He was pretty upset about his realization tonight. I have been frustrated that he couldn't see it, but now that he does I just feel bad bc it's a sad situation. This is not how any of us as parents want our families to be but I am really not sure what to do about it right now

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Submitted by DaniellaR on Thu, 01/11/2018 - 6:46am

Cancel the credit card.When your idiot husband asks, tell him there were a bunch of fraudulent charges on it so you notified the CC company and they are working with authorities to find out who stole the card. Open a beer and enjoy watching him freak out.

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Submitted by grace8205 on Thu, 01/11/2018 - 6:54am

Your SD sounds like the female version of my SS. He moved out (well was told to leave) and would need money because he was broke, money for car insurance, money for food or just money because he was broke but posts pictures of his new tattoos on FB. Not just one tattoo but a half sleeve on his arm. I was pissed off but of course my DH didn’t see a problem with it. He is now 23 and still gets daddy to pay for things just not as much.

Last one was 2 months ago, skid gets a loan to buy a Mercedes but can’t afford to buy winter tires. Daddy loaned him the money ($1200) but have we seen any payments back yet? Of course not. A month after the tires skid got laid off but got a new job within 3 days and because I stepped and wrote a letter on his behalf (telling the employer must complete the contract) in he got paid out $5k from his previous employer. Skid came out ahead $5000 but can’t pay back the money for the winter tires instead pissing it away.

My DH says nothing.