That is what I keep telling myself...

BM got in a knock down, drag out fight with her boyfriend Sunday night. Unfortunately, the girls were sitting in the back seat of her car while they were fighting. (SD9 said they looked like two stray cats brawling in the front yard of BF's house.)

DH and I, my kids, my mom, and my visiting aunt and uncle were all playing cards at my house, nursing some Corona's when the phone calls started to pour in. I was so embarassed. The first phone call was from SD11 sobbing hysterically for her dad to come get her and her sisters. Of course DH rushed over, all the while BM and her BF calling him to tell their side of the story. DH was amazingly very calm, cool and collected. I was a little nervous that he would lose it on the two of them for involving his children in their dramatics. He didn't. He picked up his girls, helped BM call the police and took care of the situation like he always does. DH called me periodically with updates and seeking guidance about the domestic violence aspect of it all. I spoke with BM and advised her as best I could being that I have VERY limited training. BM's BF ended up in jail with a mandatory restraining order to stay away from BM, the girls, DH and even me.

I feel really awful for BM, I really do. DH said she had bruises up and down her arm and I never think anyone deserves to be physically assaulted.... but in the whole drama, I just get frustrated with her. Why does MY husband always have to swoop in and rescue her? She must have called him a dozen times yesterday. She is also going to SD11's practice tonight even though she almost never goes. I spoke with DH and suggested that he take the night off because I didn't see the point of BOTH of them going. He didn't see an issue so I further explained that I foresee BM latching on to him like she always does and that I'm not comfortable with it. He reluctantly said that he would take the night off but had to "add" that he didn't think it was a big deal.

So to the title of my blog. I should be happy that she has focused all her craziness and victimization at her BF. She can be pretty mean and vindictive. She's filed exaggerated, jaded harassment charges against DH and has even called the police on me before. There have been days that I wanted to throw in the towel and give in to my ever wanting need to just slap her. I know how she can get, so I'm not overly surprised that it finally escalated to this point. It isn't in all of us to demonstrate such remarkable restraint.

I guess I just don't understand why my life and marriage has to be so enmeshed with my husband's former one. Doesn't she have friends? Her mom and sister? Why is it the first phone call is always to my home?

I'm just pouting I guess. I really do have to put out there that I am THRILLED it's not us this time.