Just one day where SD11 doesn't make it about her. Yesterday, we were taking the entire family out to dinner to celebrate several things that have happened. My DH didn't want to bring SD11. He was going to leave her with a babysitter because she is still grounded. But, she has been better. Not great, but better. She is still grounded for two more weeks, but I told him we should bring her along. We sat her down and told her the rules. She didn't argue.

So yesterday evening, we are getting ready to leave and DH notices that both SD9 and SD11 need to change their shirts. SD9's shirt had a stain on it. And, SD11 was wearing something inappropriate. And by inappropriate, I mean you could see part of her boob. We didn't even know she had a shirt like that. So he tells them to change their shirts. SD9 actually argued with him for a minute or two, but she went and changed her shirt. SD11 said nothing and went to her room. Both of us were shocked that she just decided not to argue.

Fast forward 20 minutes and we are getting ready to walk out the door. SD11 comes out of her room wearing the exact same shirt. DH asks her why she didn't change her shirt. She told him she didn't have too. He told her if she wanted to go, then she would have to change. Of course, she argued with him and then started screaming about how unfair it was.

DH told her to change the shirt or stay at home. She went and got a new shirt, but she was screaming the entire time and slamming things. Needless to say, she ended up staying home. She wasn't happy about it. She cried and begged to come with us when she realized DH went down the street and asked the babysitter to watch her. He made her stay. I could tell the whole incident ruined the evening for him. This was a big deal for all of us. I just wish that she could not make it about herself, just once.

DH plans to seize all of her inappropriate shirts today so that will probably be an adventure.