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Dodged a bullet...past relationship

Daisymazy2's picture

After my xh and I divorced, I met a man, I will call Bob, with one daughter and one son.  His daughter was a few years older than my oldest son.  He asked me out and I was already dating someone else.  I really had only went on a few dates with the guy I was dating.  I told Bob  that I couldn't go out because I was dating someone else.  

I often wondered about how my life would be if I had dated Bob.  He was a really nice guy, nice house,and  great job.  I often thought I was so stupid to turn him down and continue to date the dead beat I was dating.  

As luck would have it a few years back, I started working at a new job.  His daughter worked there too.  At the time Bob asked me out, his daughter was aJunior in highschool.  She was now a college graduate.   Again, I was still trying to comprehend why would I tell this man NO.  There was just something that felt off about him.  I started talking to his daughter at work.  I never told her that Bob asked me out, once.  Bob and I had moved on and we both were engaged to be married.  It did not take me long before I was SO glad that I never dated Bob.

His nickname for his daughter is Queenie.  She was living at home with daddy when she was 25 years old.  She had a great paying job and was probably making more money than  him.  Bob didn't want her to leave his house.  Of course, she wasn't going anywhere because daddy was paying for everything. She was saving her money.  She wasn't really into partying. She was a nice girl but she was spoiled.  She would often throw little temper tantrums at work.  She would tell me how daddy would spoil her. She had a flat tire at work.  Her boyfried worked at the same place, he offered to change the tire.  OH NO,  she had to call daddy.  He drove about 20 miles or so to change her tire.  She is such a mini wife.

Today, I found out that she married a few weekends ago.  I am in total shock.  I always thought she would live at home with daddy until one of them died.  She is now 30 years old.  Of course, the guy that she married is in the military.  Whenever he gets deployed, she gets to stay with Bob.  As karma would have it, she does have 4 skids, 2 girls and 2 boys.  I am sure she will be joining this board soon...lol  Bob is still engaged to the same woman.  I can only imagine why he isn't married yet.

Now, I am so glad that I dodged that bullet. I couldn't deal with a mini wife like that.

  

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justmakingthebest's picture

LOL! That is just crazy! 

She may think that she can pack up and go home to daddy for months on end while her hubby is deployed but it doesn't often work out that way! 

Ispofacto's picture

I've often wondered what it's like to work with one of these SDs.  It doesn't surprise me that they would throw tantrums at work.  No doubt it's harder for them to keep their jobs.  But I have had a spoiled female coworker before from an intact family and somehow she skated along being lazy and manipulative and delgating everything while taking credit for other peoples' work.  She was a nightmare to work with.  She literally cried helplessly at her desk every day while I took up her slack.  She sensed I could see right through her, and set out to smear me.  Found an ugly old executive to damsel to.  People saw them out to lunch together a lot.  So inappropriate.  She ended up working for him briefly, but when there was a reorg, she ended up with an abusive boss and the princess quit.  Almost everyone hated her, but they never did fire her.

I wonder how all our SDs will be perceived in their future workplaces.

hereiam's picture

I am just laughing at "SD" and "workplace" being in the same sentence. My SD 27 refuses to work.