My BS's wedding
Over the weekend, my middle BS, 24, was married out of state. Dh and I along with XH and SM also went to the wedding. My oldest son, 28, was at the wedding too. We can all get along with each other at these events for the kids sake.
We traveled over 14 hours to get to the wedding. SM and I often talk to each other. We discuss the kids, XH parents, grandbaby and work. We were just chit chatting because we didn't know anyone else at the wedding. I am not a huge fan of hers but we do get along for the most part. She was the other woman and XH did leave me to be with her. She left her DH to be with XH. I do not hold any grudges. She did me a HUGE favor. I do not like that the kids had to be a part of it but I am really better off without XH.
SM and I sit together on a bench and we are just talking after the ceremony. We are waiting to go into the reception hall. DH comes and sits next to me. It is hot outside, he has a paper fan (decoration from the wedding) and he starts to fan me. I didn't ask him to do it. He just does things like that. XH is standing next to the reception hall with my oldest son. SM calls XH over to come fan her. DH gets up and comes back with a ice cold bottled water for me. He tells me that I looked thirsty and he got it for me. Again, I didn't ask him to do it. SM calls XH over to get her a bottle of water. XH comes back with a beer for her and points to the bar and told her where she could get more. We go into the reception hall to eat. XH and SM sit across from us. DH pulls out my chair. SM makes XH get up and pull out her chair. Yep, he is already sitting down. At this time, I am about to bust out with laughter.
SM and I start talking again. She asked me if my oldest son was able to find something to eat. He is a VERY picky eater but he can always seemed to find something to eat. Before I could answer her question, XH makes a smart a$$ comment to her that DS is trying to eat healthy. Well, that isn't true because I had already taken DS out to eat twice since we were there and he ate burgers and fries each time. I commented back to her, that it looks like he found some chicken and I am sure that the hamburger he ate earlier along with the chicken can hold him over for awhile. I highly doubt that she was trying to sound sarcastic when she asked if he was able to find something to eat. Apparently, XH thought she was.. I wanted to smack the crap out of him for saying it. BS doesn't need Daddy to defend him.
We finish eating and everyone starts to dance. DH asked me to dance for a slow song. SM makes XH get up to dance as well. As I was walking back to the table, XH gives me the death stare. He is fuming. He seems to be so angry. I am not sure why he is so angry at me. OH WAIT...it is because he blames ME because he has to do all these things for SM. I just smile and look away.
On the way back to the hotel, DH tells me that SM was trying to flirt with him. I started laughing and I said I guess she wants YOU now. I guess she is looking for greenier pastures. She is finding out now that she didn't get that great of a catch
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Oh my! Well, thank you for
Oh my! Well, thank you for posting. As ORH said, how nice that your DH showed your XH, his wife, your children and everyone else at the wedding how a devoted husband behaves.
When my youngest graduated from Uni, DH, my Mom, myself, exH and his GF all went to the ceremony. It was actually very nice. I get along ok with exH and really like his GF. We did have a few incidences that are similar to yours Daisy.
DH always, always, always picks up the tab. I don't mind except that it has become expected the few times we've been out with exH. (We had some occasions that demanded we go out to discuss things and it's easier over dinner)
DH of course picks it up at every meal and we ended up eating together all the time because the Uni is in a very small town. The third time it happened, my Mom said NO, you've paid the last 3 times, I'm getting this one. ExH sat there not saying a thing, untill his GF poked him, actually poked him LOL and he took the bill from my Mom and said No, I'll get it.
DH was there helping my son and his roommates move funiture, pack up trucks, take out garbage, all the move out crap that needs doing while exH and GF were touring the area. The other parents noticed and made a show of thanking DH in front of exH and saying what a help he was and what a great guy he was.
I know I have a much better man in DH than I did with exH. It's nice when everyone else sees it too!
one day
One day my ex might notice, too. I have so much better a man now. A man who actually treats me well. We are earlier on in the process. I was having a sit down with ex and he said something about my SO not having a very commanding personality in a not very nice way. It really pissed me off. Don't confuse being a nice person and not wanting to tread on your toes with not having a 'commanding personality'.
Anyway, I know. My parents can see it. My friends see it. My SO treats my son better than my ex does (which is sad).
Daisy you showed her how its
Daisy you showed her how its done. What a classy woman you are and it shows just how jealous she still is of you. Its funny that you continue to be a threat to her although you are not with him anymore. Kudos to you darling and its just confirmation that he did you a favor.