When you always do what you've always done..........
You'll always get what you've always gotten!!! Duh freakin duh, SO!!!!
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You'll always get what you've always gotten!!! Duh freakin duh, SO!!!!
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I removed some of my previous
I removed some of my previous posts cuz I was a little paranoid, but SD14 got her 'ho on this summer. Lost her V card to a guy she wasn't even dating. Then started having sex with another guy (at least this one is a boyfriend) less than 2 months later. SO found out about all this when he totally, majorly busted SD by finding her secret FB account that listed all of her slutty antics in graphic, graphic detail.
Poor SO. I don't know if he'll ever get the picture out of his head of some chubby, pimple-faced teenager going down on his pwecious little pwincess on BMs couch! (snicker) }:)
So SD14 was grounded for the remainder of the summer for her shenanigans. School starts, grounding ends and SD14 gets to do whatever she wants again, with no additional restrictions except she can't see Loverboy anymore. I have talked to SO about this, to no avail. SD lies, breaks curfew or whatever, and gets grounded. Then she's off grounding and screws up again and gets grounded again. Lather.Rinse.Repeat.
SO took yesterday afternoon off work. When SD14 wasn't home by 4:30, SO drove over to Loverboy's house and parked a block down and sat and waited about an hour. Out comes SD14 and Loverboy, she gets into Loverboy's backseat (he's 16, has a car) and lays down and hides! As Loverboy pulls out of the driveway, SO drives toward him and Loverboy almost craps his pants. He rolls down the window and says "Um, I was helping SD with her biology." I'll bet you were, Loverboy!!!! SD14 pops up out of the backseat and SO snarls at Loverboy to take SD14 home. Um, WHY he didn't drag SD out of the car by her hair and let Loverboy drive her home instead??????? But I digress.....
SO is furious at SD14, she's grounded again, he can't believe she would do this, yadda yadda yadda. And since I just CANNOT keep my mouth shut, I pointed out that she's likely been doing this since school started going on 2 months now, and that she would continue to use every trick, and every opportunity to sneak around and make sweet, sweet pubescent love with her Loverboy. I TOLD him that he just needs to think that if her mouth is moving, she's lying, and to act accordingly. After the summer of skanky love, SO vowed to be all over SD and verify her wherabouts, etc. I knew that he wouldn't follow through with any of it, nor did he. I was surprised that he went to Loverboy's house yesterday, since that doesn't match with his "head in the sand" MO.
SO moans and pouts that there is nothing he can do and shoots down every suggestion that I have:
GPS tracking on her phone -- no current data plan, too expensive
Nanny cam -- too expensive
Landline at home --- doesn't want one
Strip her room down, remove door from hinges -- too mean to his pwincess!
They're all BS excuses, of course, and I let him know that, which pisses him off to no end, but I don't care. This is why you have a weekend girlfriend (that's me) that will have nothing to do with your kids!!! I can't stand to watch Disney Dad, lazy, excuse-making parenting go on in my household.
She's on BC now, the patch,
She's on BC now, the patch, to "regulate her periods". SO really, truly believes that is what she wanted it for. His head is buried so far in the sand he's going to surface on the other side of the planet.
I don't really have respect for him in SOME of the ways he raises his kids. No matter how much SD14 shows her lying, skanky ways, he keeps giving her all the chances in the world to be, well.....a lying skank!
I keep telling myself that I'm just biding my time for now, that either someone else will come along for me or the kids will be out of the house (maybe) in 10 years, then we can be together. Ugh. That's pathetic.
THIS^^^^^^
THIS^^^^^^
I so agree with all of
I so agree with all of you.....so what the hell am I doing???? Ugh!
Any advice on how to talk to him about this in a non-threatening, kind way that will not get him all defensive with his hackles up protecting his pwecious pwincess against the mean mean DarkStar?
He has the "ostrich"
He has the "ostrich" syndrome. Doesn't want to know and doesn't want to act. You, by bringing up the obvious, will soon become "the enemy."
Since he will do nothing about it, you can only hope to disengage. Then, when SD brings home the Sgrandkid and refuses to parent (as she has never been parented), Guilty Daddykins will come to the rescue and NOT parent the Sgrandkid either.
Must repeat "I will not
Must repeat "I will not engage. I will not engage. I will not engage. I will not engage."
I need a big bottle of Don'tGiveAShit
He is just going to be a
He is just going to be a grandfather soon. Since he cant be a real man and father and get her a** in shape. If I did that growing up, my mom would have taken a belt to my backside. smh
Look at some of my old blogs.
Look at some of my old blogs. I swore that SD17 would be going down the same path at the same age. Drug users, goth boys, a 21yr old when she was 15, you name it.
Now DH has full custody for her senior year. She doesn't have a boyfriend yet, (it helps that she moved from the deep South to the Pacific Northwest) and I'm not sure she will.
I did stupid crap when I was a teenager. We all did. Maybe she'll get it out of her system young, like mine seems to.
I truly truly hope so!!!!
I truly truly hope so!!!! ***crossing fingers****
As much as I vent on her, I am really rooting for SD14. If she applies herself, she could go to college and get a good job and have a very nice boring normal life!