DH and I had it out because of SD12
As most of you know, Monday thru Friday it's just Skids and I, no DH. Friday he came home early and we went to file the CS papers. Then when the girl got home from school he spent the rest of the night entertaining them. At one point SD12 had his Sonic Ear, which he uses while hes deer hunting. She played with it over an hour then I found it in the floor. I had to tell her three times to put it up. She kept saying she was still playing with it. At that time I gave her the choice on punishment or putting it away, telling her she could save the batteries and play with it outside tomorrow.
Not even 30 minutes later I was in my bedroom at the other end of the house and heard it squealing because she had it turned up to loud. I yelled for her to put it away and DH started screaming at me! I went in the livingroom and tried to tell him that I had already told her to put it away. Instead he starts chewing me out b/c he said she could play with it. I told him that she was double playing us and I had already told her no. Then he started in on what a bad bitchy stepmother I was and alot more crap I won't repeat. I looked at him and said fine their YOUR kids YOU quit YOUR job and take care of them YOURSELF! So he said fine that I could get out of the house b/c if I was taking care of them then I wouldn't be doing anything.
Then SD12 got up and started screaming and cursing me. I lightly put one hand on her to calm her down and DH jumped up and grabbed my arms. He said don't you put your damn hand on my kids. I tried to get free b/c he was hurting me. Trying to calm him down too. SD12 even told him I barely touched her but he wouldn't let go... So I bit him... hard. Then he threw me against the wall. I got free and went and packed a suitcase. When I went in the kitchen to get my Chihuahua's dog food. He said I could leave but I wasn't taking his half of the car. I reminded him that he was taking my half of the house and all my money was wrapped up in HIS kids and I could take the car anywhere I wanted.
He locked me in the bedroom with him and I chewed him out for a good hour and a half. To be honest I am still pissed! He's walking on egg shells with me. I let him know if he EVER! touched me like that again I would have him arrested and HIS kids could go into foster care! He never really apologized but he did admit he was wrong. I asked him if he ever stopped to think what all this was doing to me? That I lost my job, gave up all me time, I was screamed at daily by him and his kids, and for what? To be treated like crap by all of them. I told him it ended here, that the next time I would be leaving for good! He admited that he never thought at all about me or what I was going threw. He said I didn't ask for or deserve any of it.
I told him from now on there will be me time. Time with NO kids! I told him he would be fixing my bedroom door where it would shut right and when he was home he could care for his kids himself. That when the door was shut they were all to leave me the heck alone. I also told him that after he told me that I would have to leave the house since he paid for everything, that if I EVER heard anything like that again he would have to start paying me to care for and feed his kids Monday thru Friday, just like a nanny and I would expect weekends off. Oh and sex would be $200 an hour b/c if he was going to treat me like a whore then he could pay me like one.
I sick and tired of this. My family is all saying "I told you so". If I leave I'm running away. Far Far Away! From him and my family!
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He's getting better
He's getting better at backing me up but he tends to slip alot. This weekend I did remind him that I've been working with special needs kids off and on since 1997. I told him what I was taught and how I'm using it with his kids. He says he didn't realize, although I've told him 1000 times! And I'm sure he forgot 90 percent of what I said afterwards.
As for this weekend... I've got to go with him and the Skids to North Carolina to my MIL's house. I gave her my male chihuahua last year b/c she loved him so much. She breeds Chihuahua's so in return she promiced me the pick out of the first litter sired by him. So Ive got to go get my baby Chihuahua! A happy thing for me! Plus he's buying his fathers truck so we've got to get it too.
Sunday we are all going to church too. I'm tired of the excuses for him and skids not going, so I made the new rule to that they WILL all go or I won't cook, clean, or do any laundry till they do. Skids love to go, DH is just lazy and I won't take Skids by myself.
The new rule is I either have either Saturday night or Sunday night to myself from now on.
Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns
Wow
Sky, I feel angry and sad for you. You need to get Cruella's pan and beat the shit out of him. What a horse's ass. Yelling at you in front of SD will only cause her to devalue you. Man, that really pissed me off to read that. I hope you make him pay for that for a very long time!
I read him what you wrote
He agrees he is a horses ass. I told him it would take me a long time to get over it, that he said and did some horrible things. He got pissed. Said he didn't do anything horrible. I reminded him the he said I was trying to beat his child. He said that he wasn't going to fight with me and hung up the phone.
The skids have been hellions tonight too. I told him that I think it's b/c of what happened Friday. That it's like its day one with them and they don't have to listen. I reminded him that he needs to find a local job NOW and be home with his kids so I can go back to work!
He yelled that he married me and not a damn computer. He hates that I talk on this website. I told him I needed someone to talk to. That since marrying him I no longer have any friends since all we ever seem to do is move and heavens knows I can't talk to him, his hellions, or my family. And above all at least everyone on the website is there for me unlike he has been.
I said I would never divorce, but if this doesn't end soon I will be giving him the choice of me leaving or his demons in boarding school. I'm NOT going to be his or those little shits doormat anymore! I wasted to many tears on them already.
Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns
I'm agreeing with Cruella,
I'm agreeing with Cruella, and I'm in a similar situation, but what happened to you really upset even me- I know what it's like to feel stuck doing everything for some man and his kids and then having them treat you like you don't have a say in anything- and also with having the man gone all the time, and you taking care of his kids-
what upsets me even more is the violence.
And his doing all this in front of his daughter, because it makes a pretty direct demonstration in front of her, that it's ok to treat you like crap, and that he'll back her up and join her in it.
I'm very sorry to say this, but even my H wouldn't ever get violent with me and scream at me to leave the house in front of them.
And I like what you said, about what you'll do if he does it again- seriously, do call the police- he'll go to jail, and they'll take the kids somewhere else.
But of course, like I'm one to talk, but best of all, get a job back in your field and just let him take care of his own little bitches.
Then he'll be up a creek.
It takes a lot of nerve for these jerks, shoving their kids onto us, while they spend most of the week somewhere else, and then come back acting like we don't have the right to make rules?
No rights, just responsibility......we're totally sisters in hell, you and me- except the violence part, really just horrible.