DH buys SD14 $150.00 Jordans at least twice a year.
DH used to buy SS22 $250.00 Jordans every Xmas.
DH bought SD14 a $600.00 piano that she used ONCE.
DH bought SS22 a $400.00 Marmot jacket.
DH bought SD14 a $500.00 camera for Xmas.

I pay $1200.00 a month for private school tuition for BS17. Last payment is next month AMEN!!!!!
I pay for football camps ranging from $500.00 to $1000.00 per camp. He goes to a few a year.
I'm also done with that expense as he is leaving for college soon.

We have sole custody of 3 skids but sorry, SO doesn't let his kids have anything extravagant. NOTHING. They get new clothes and shoes when they NEED them and also from Santa. Does bitch SD18STB19 ALWAYS ask for money? Of course. Does she get it? Hell no. She hasn't received money from her Dad in almost 3 years because she won't clean her room. We haven't paid for ANYTHING for her in all that time because she won't get a job and clean her room. Want money for prom?? So sorry. Clean your room. She finally got fed up that she "threatened" to move in with BM full time. EVERYONE (DH and SS15 and SS10) were ecstatic. Life is so much nicer without her in the house.
I haven't bought her a Christmas gift or birthday gift in 2 years because she's a lazy bitch to me, her dad, BM and her brothers. We don't reward that type of behavior.
Skids are told they get a car when they get a job and can pay for insurance and gas. Since SD is already 18 and about to graduate high school, that offer is off the table. SS15 already has enough money saved up for at least a year's worth of insurance coverage and gas money, so he'll get a car as soon as he gets a job, but will lose it if his grades drop or he quits his job.
SS10 and SS15 are both good kids and get nice Xmas gifts and small birthday gifts, but we don't splurge or go overboard on anything for them. When they ask for something, our standard answer is: "use your own money" and instantly they don't actually "need" or "want" what they just asked for. Weird how that works.

DD dance. I splurge way too much on that! She is a competitive dancer and we pay 3000.00 a season (nov-mar)
We pay 150.00 for classes every 6 weeks off season.
Plus shoes and costumes and travel costs for away competitions...
WAY TOO MUCH!!!

DH lets SD21 live with us rent and rule free..I think that's a pretty expensive gift!
As for my bio-sons (ages 14 and 10) we just spent the money to buy them an xbox360 (to share, I wasn't about to get them each one of their own lol) and a couple of games. This was something DH swore he would never do (for some reason he gets absolutely angry at the price of gaming consoles) and when I asked "Then why did you do it?" He says "Because our bio-sons are good boys who have never asked for or felt entitled to much in their whole lives and they appreciate what they get."

DH bought SD17 a guitar for Christmas to the tune of $300.00. Aunt J said she's never seen her play it.

One year DH bought skids season passes to a ski resort and bought SS a snow board, bought them all the stuff they would need, new coats, boots, goggles, etc. He probably spent at least $300.00 each on them for Christmas that year.... and guess how many times the skids went skiing/snowboarding? ONCE

We bought BS5 an I Touch when he was 2. Guess who ruined it? ME! I didn't realize it was in his pants pocket and washed his shorts. OOPS! We didn't bother replacing it, instead we got him a Galaxy Tablet when he turned 3. He is VERY responsible with it. He still has it, no broken screen, or any damage. We want to pay for karate lessons for him, but the two times I've taken him for a "trial run" he has been too scared to do it, so we'll see.

We started a chore chart 3 weeks about where BS5 does 2 chores 5 days per week and gets $10.00 every Friday. The good news is, he is acting like he is going to be a hoarder in that he doesn't want to spend his money. The bad news is that he is acting like a hoarder and wants to buy a toy, but then gets mad when he has to fork his money over. LOL

I cut off the money train with the skids. Hence why they hate me.

Before DH and I lived together, he would hand over $20 (or more) to all the skids whenever they asked for it. He has 4 kids, so that adds up. Or if they girls said they needed something, he would take them to the store to get it and then get suckered out of spending like 10x more then he planned.

But overall he isn't a big gift spender. With 4 kids and a lazy BM he couldnt afford to do it.

He did pay half for OSD's car but he hasnt bought a car for another one of the kids since then.

I think YSD is spoiled because she does get the most out of all the skids and gets treated the best by both DH and BM.

My own bio is somewhat spoiled on his dad's side. But Ex and I have the same parenting philosphy for the most part and try not to over indulge him.

He is an only child so he probably does get more then kids with siblings. But he is not overly spoiled by any means.

I cant even think of a big ticket item that I bought him. I got him a 3DS for Xmas one year but I got it super cheap on Black Friday.

I tend to spend a lot on BS18, but he's grateful for everything he gets and everything we do for him. There's a huge difference between spoiled and entitled, and BS is definitely not entitled. I raised him with gratitude. BS has a new MacBook Pro and Iphone6, both of which he bought himself with money saved from his job or Christmas or birthdays. He also bought himself both video game systems that he owns. DH and I gave him $1500 for his 16rh birthday to put towards a car, and his paternal grandparents matched that. BS pays for gas, maintenance and insurance. I also have spent several thousand over the past eight years on his martial arts, which is one of his passions. The kid has never asked for anything, even for Christmas, except small things like books or even hoodies. So we don't mind helping him out a little here and there with new sneakers or whatever.

My DS6 gets an allowance. He does his chores. It's all quarters and dollars but he saves it. Every few months I take him to gamestop or toys r us to get a new game or toy. SS13 never gets an allowance because he doesn't do his chores.

DH used to buy 3-4 new video games per month. I put a stop to that. If they want new games they need to trade in some old ones. Those things are 60 bucks a pop.

I buy my DS6 a lot of clothes and shoes. I hit up sales when I can. I love Kohls and target and buy a lot of stuff off season. I just bought him 12 new long sleeve shirts one size up for 1.75 per shirt at Target and 3 sweaters for 3.98 each. I also got his jeans for 5 dollars a piece. I think I got 3 or 4 pairs. All of it went into a plastic tote in the top of his closet for later this year. I do buy expensive shoes. He likes Jordans. Probably because DH wears them. His size are usually on sale for 50.00 the last time I caved and bought him LeBrons. 75.00 :jawdrop: for a 6 year old.

My boyfriend wanted to buy his son a four wheeler for his BDay, the kid was turning 8 and didn't even know how to ride a bike! I told him thats not safe and bought him a trampoline instead. Couple hundred bucks and what does the kid say when he sees it? I HAVE ONE AT MOMMAS HOUSE

My ex and I like to watch our kids and grandkids show horses so we tend to spend on horse, trainers, trucks, trailers, etc. But, our kids are good kids and appreciate everything we do. They have never been in any trouble, excelled at sports, school and always worked, so we didn't mind buying things for them. My kids are respectful of my husband and look out for us as we are getting older.

Now, the stepkids had the same opportunities and chose the welfare, tons of babies by whoever road.

DH bought a car for SDthen16 and paid for insurance and maintenance, and asked for nothing in return. He also bought her multiple laptops for college. One was an HP, the other two MacBooks. He also gave her $200 monthly spending money in college, and still gives her minimum $40 every time he sees her. She lives rent free with BM and will be 24 in May. She is now registered to start grad school across the country, in a nothing concentration (think majors that athletes have). She said she intends to get a job marketing recreational use marijuana when she graduates, but has no contacts in the field (other than her dealers?). BM will be paying for her tuition and an apartment. BM also just co-signed a car loan for SD23. I thought DH was bad, but I see BM is worse.

Our children are too young for me to say if I spoil them. I buy their clothes at outlets with coupons, so yes they're name brand. I spend a fortune on pre-school 2 mornings a week, but it's still cheaper than the local Montessori Schools. A family friend I have thinks they have too many toys, and frankly that judgement annoys me because they're still so young (3,4 and 2 months) that if I can afford it, so be it.

SS was a very expensive bike for his 4th bday he didn't ride until after his 6th bday once a month. A very sore issue with me. Baby Born for my daughters last birthday and I could still kick myself for it.

My son plays hockey, so depending on the team it's about $3000/year. He's a goalie so in a "growth year" it's usually another $1000 for equipment. He's pretty good, but probably won't play past his last game in high school. He doesn't play any other sports, this one is his only love.

My DD got a car when she got her license. It's an older but very nice car (SUV) and she helps with running errands. I pay the insurance and she pays for gas. She's been looking for a job, but they're kind of hard to come by in this city... but at least she's actively looking/applying.

Neither of us. DH felt like he was sending enough CS to BM to cover any extravagances. Also, the skids would always come wearing brand name clothing. BM's family is well off and her grandparents would send each skid a card with $100 in it for every.single.holiday. Even like Flag Day and St. Patrick's Day (they aren't Irish, BTW). So they bought themselves their own crap that I didn't think a kid should be spending so much money on.

My son didn't ever WANT me to spend a bunch of money on him. He preferred (still does) thrift store clothes shopping. I guess for him, the most extravagant thing I've bought was giving him money towards a musical instrument. He is in numerous bands that tour around the country and helps run a local all-ages music venue.

DH spends money constantly. DH will buy shoes for the SDs for our house, THEY NEVER WEAR. He bought boots $50 just so SD8 could wear boots like we all had (me and mine) for the xmas picture, never worn again.

DH bought jeans for SD11, she wore once, they were $20, still sitting in the drawer (she claims they don't fit her). Two years ago, DH decided to take everyone for SD11's then 10's birthday to the Ripley's musuem ($100) plus a waterpark type thing ($200). I guess you could say that was for everyone but he said it was specifically for SD10's bday so truly we were along for the ride.

DH did buy my son a dirtbike for $500 last year. DH wants BS13 to ride with him during the summers. DH bought a total of $1100 in christmas gifts this year for everyone. I have no idea how much for each kid because I had nothing to spend, so I didn't ask, nor was I told about over 1/2 of it until I saw it on xmas.

I can say I bought my daughter an expensive bday present this year. I bought her an american girl doll, they run $133 but she's asked for it consistently for 4 years. Before this birthday the most she got was about $30.