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No WONDER SD thinks it's her and DH against me

Elizabeth's picture

Submitted by Elizabeth on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 2:47pm

I had to go look for a place for us to live out of state (we're moving) and I chose a day when both of my two BDs would be at an all-day camp. DH was to pick them up in the evening and I would be home shortly thereafter. DH was going to work on getting our house in order to sell (painting, etc.).

Check his texts and see he texted SD19 to meet up. He said, "What are you going Saturday? Elizabeth is out of town and BDs are at camp all day." Are you kidding me?! There's nobody here to tell us what to do, so let's get together and go crazy! Way to act like a DAD moron.

If he wanted to meet with her, did he have to throw me under the bus as an impediment to that? I've never stood in the way of him seeing SD19, even if it meant driving hours out of his way and wasting an entire day.

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Helena.Handbasket's picture

Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 3:03pm

Or you could spin it another way. I have no one else to hang out with SD, what are you doing?

I guess that doesn't help. He didn't need to mention everyone else's plans.

Elizabeth's picture

Submitted by Elizabeth on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 3:15pm

Right, why couldn't he just say, "Hey, I have some free time today and want to see you. Are you available?"

Cocoa's picture

Submitted by Cocoa on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 3:03pm

I'd be soooo mad. That is very disloyal of him to you (and loyalty should be to the spouse). I'm sure my dh does the same thing, so he can still be the "good" guy to his kids. I quit looking at texts, they only upset me. Everything comes out in the open eventually. But it tends to eat me alive KNOWING it's going on, just not being able to prove it, plus would only start another huge fight. I'm TRYING to pick and choose my battles and TRYING to not go looking for them. They'll come eventually anyway.

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Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 3:06pm

Problem is the wording he used and the implications that has on a princess.

If anyone normal was to text anyone else normal, hey the wife and kids are busy, lets go grab a beer - it would be considered, 'normal'

But its not normal because a princess takes the wording above as Elizabeth indicates and it makes total sense.

Little things matter more in these situations but men are just as dumb... sigh