What's he playing at?
DH does little to nothing for our two kids, and I'm firmly convinced it's because he knows I will do it. So he won't step up, not even to help, most times.
For example, BDs got lice from their daycare, who was the one treating and combing every day? Me. SD got lice as a kid, DH was the one treating and combing SD every day. Because he knew BM wouldn't do it. Wouldn't it be nice to get some of that support in your marriage that our DH's seemed to give the BMs?
So I made dentist appointments for our two BDs' annual cleanings. And I made an appointment for BD9 to get a haircut (both DH and I agree she needs one). Dentist office sent a postcard reminder, DH told me it had some, all was fine.
I have to take off work to get all this done, DH does not. He does get BD9 off to daycare in the morning as he doesn't have to work until 1 pm.
So DH calls me today, at work, to "remind" me about the BDs' dentist apointments and BD9's haircut. Huh? He didn't schedule either, I did. I have NEVER missed a single one of these things for any reason. What's he playing at, "reminding" me of my obligations? It just struck me the wrong way, just venting I guess.
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"Wouldn't it be nice to get
"Wouldn't it be nice to get some of that support in your marriage that our DH's seemed to give the BMs?"
Dare to dream. He sounds like my asshat dh. I'm nothing more than maid/nanny/live in pooty tang. It's twat waffle bm who really commands dh's respect.
My DH does nothing to help
My DH does nothing to help with our kids either. I truly believe it's because he knows I will do it. I'm tempted to see if he would step up if didn't, but I don't want our kids to suffer. When I was pregnant with our third and had problems with my car tires, I know he won't help me. If SD has any issue with hers, he goes running. Unfair, but is what it is. I prefer being self-sufficient.
I'd have responded with a
I'd have responded with a laugh and, "Oh, good one DH! HA HA! Pretending I have to be reminded to do things for my kids like BM! HA HA! You're too funny!" What an idiot he is.
I think maybe my puzzled
I think maybe my puzzled silence told him the same thing, sort of? I mean, hell, SD is grown and he and BM have been divorced 20 years. Who does he think he's talking to here?!