getting 2 of SKs full time. I am kinda iffy about it. The situtation is that BM is too busy running behind a pair of nuts and a penis to be a mother to SKs. So right now they are being raised by BMs mother and step father. Its like STBH said its his responisbility to raise his kids. I understand that honestly i do but at the same time he works 12 hrs graveyard shifts. So when he is at work they would be at home with me. Which means it will be on me to cook dinner, help with homework, comb hair, put to bed, etc. BM is psychotic. I don't think that she would let this happen. God I hope not. I am not their parent, but their future stepmother. Its like she has some control over them. Since they have been living with their grandparents they always speak to me when they come over without their dad making them speak. They mind better and have better manners. I am a little apprehensive about the whole situation. Its like I told him we are in this thing for better or for worse but there is going to be some ground rules. (1) She has NO SAY SO in what goes on this house (2) When i discipline them either you have my back or they can go back to their grandparents house because they will be here more with me than with you (2) When you are not here BM has no reason to show up at our house (3) When we argue it will NOT be in front of them we will do it in private (4) On weekends we you have to work they have to go somewhere. I don't care if its over their grandparents or with BM but I need some me time. The reason #4 is so important to me is because i have no children. I am so used to being by myself that if i don't spend time with myself i become irritable, grouchy, moody, and bitchy. I feel like this it is a lot for me to give up my time for someone else's responsibility the least that they can do it give me some time by myself. Maybe I am wrong and they just need to stay where they are but he is adamant about getting his kids. I am going to pray over it and let God lead me.