After SD16 threw her Father's Day tantrum, DH didn't hear from either SD for a couple of weeks. Well, a few days ago I noticed that he'd pulled $600 cash out, which is kind of unusual. I actually forgot to ask him about it, but yesterday he brought it up.

Apparently the SDs showed up at his house, texted him from the driveway and asked if I was there because my car was out front. He told them I wasn't, so they came in and asked him for money for school clothes. I KNEW that would be the catalyst for them reaching out to him again, but the nerve of it still galls me. As soon as he gave them cash, they took off to go shopping and he hasn't heard from them since. This is the first time, and I'm sure not the last, that they have made such an obvious money grab and it hurt him a lot. I told him that we need to at least partially separate finances, because I can't stand the thought of him reinforcing their bad behavior like that. He insists he won't do it again, but today I set up a separate account for him and diverted some of his pay into it. It's a small step, but hopefully not knowing that he's catering to them will give me some peace of mind. 

The best part is, and if he'd been paying attention he would have known this, the school district has announced that they will be entirely virtual until mid-October. So the 'need' for school clothes was total bs. Usually they come to me for clothes and part of me hopes they try that in October just so I have a reason to tell them what I think about their sense of entitlement.