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In the 9 yrs we have been together this is what has happened. I have been physically assaulted, called names, stolen from, lied about and so on. At first H backed me up on all decisions but since we moved to TN that has stopped. He says I should forgive her for everything she has done because she's just a kid. More like the spawn of Satan. This kid is an absolute spoiled monster. She has tried to have me arrested, pushed me down a flight of stairs, pulled a knife on me and disrespected me constantly. One minute H says she's just a kid then the next he says she's an adult. I keep telling him pick one already. When my sons still lived at home they knew to follow the house rules no matter how old you are. I have given up trying to keep a clean house because they're both pigs. I could tell you all things that would make you sick. :sick: Both of them stopped going to therapy but I'm still trying it myself. If it weren't for that and being able to come here I don't know what I would do. H has made sure that none of my friends feel comfortable coming over or even calling. He's afraid they might see some of what's going on and say something about it. H won't let anyone say anything about his spoiled brat. I've quit trying to make things work, until he can admit that he's wrong about how he's handled everything. I am soooo over it. I've told him my money is my money, I'll pay some of the bills. The ones in my name but that's all and not to ask me to spend any on sd. I'm still po'ed that he lied to me about her.
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You go, girl. And I mean go as in leave.
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
If I had my finances in order (as in a job, my own paycheck) H would be out on his hiney. That's the only thing keeping us together at this point, something I am trying to remedy as we speak.
What has your therapist advised? Surely, you staying in this situation is totally unhealthy, not to mention physically dangerous!
If it's money keeping you there, be a tightwad with your paycheck, and start stashing. I am. It's hard for me with H looking over everything I spend closely, but I manage a little at a time.
Everyone knows, with the economy the way it is right now, people are having to do all sorts of things just to stay afloat. That's how I'm looking at this now...stay afloat until my ship comes in.
Isn't it frustrating to know
Isn't it frustrating to know that all you've been through with the girl & she isn't even his kid? What a waste!
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
I can totally relate...
Ferretmom,
I can totally relate to everything you said...The step brat has never physically assulted me but she has done everything else. Her dad has been home from deployment for three weeks (yep I kept the little snot the entire deployment). The instant she is with her dad and away from me she goes into a big drama fest about how badly I "mistreated" her and how horrible she had it while he was gone...My daughter was there and said that Step brat "went on and on", way over dramatizied everything, eggagerated big time, and flat out lied about alot of things she told him....Of course, I heard this from my daughter and he is defending his little devil...
I am done trying too...I really just want out...If I had my own pay check and job he would be out on his hiney also with his snotty little spawn...I am just bidding my time until the army moves us back to the states from Germany...And I am outta here!!! I can't wait for the day that I know I don't have to look at her evil little face or hear her stupid sounding voice anymore...
If things were reversed
If things were reversed and you did to her what she did to you, you would have been arrested for child abuse. I don't give a rat's ass how old she was when she assaulted you, your DH should have stepped in and put an end to it OR you should have called the police and had her arrested for domestic assault / battery. Just because she's a child doesn't mean she has the right to assault anyone.
Times they are a changin and we see more and more violence perpetrated by kids. Sometimes the only way to stop it is to hold them totally responsible and accountable for their actions. If she's not held accountable, then by God the parents need to take responsibility for their kids' behavior.
You don't need this aggravation, FM
Screw them and the horse they rode in on. Attacked? Threatened?
Best action to take is to threaten a RESTRAINING order against
the little twerp. If her hind end is hauled out in cuffs, she will THEN SEE that spoiled KIDDOS don't run the show...ADULTS do; and if H "isn't sure" she's an adult, well, let him AND her learned the HARD way.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt
As soon as my sons return
As soon as my sons return from overseas I'm packing my things and leaving. It would take a miracle to get me to stay now.
Yes. Ferretmom, it will be a relief to see one less woman being
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
abused and misused by her H and his spawn (or whatever she is).
Let's Recap, Ferretmom
I re-read your posts from just a few weeks, as well as what you wrote in this one. This is the same 19-yd-old "child/adult" who:
*had sex on your family room couch on Halloween with a girl and (OOPS!) your DH & you walked in on her
*PURPOSELY cost you a good job a few weeks ago because she didn't you to make more money than her daddy
Am I wrong here?
Oh honey, if I am, please let me know, but if I did get my facts stright, then you have got to get this horrible person out of your house. And if your DH is telling you that there's NOTHING WRONG and he's now PUNISHING you by turning off your satellite TV, then it's time to kick his ass to the curb as well.
The two of them deserve each other in their dysfunction. I find it simply fascinating that they are both in need of serious therapy- yet you are the only one in counseling to try to better the situation! Isn't that always the way?
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis