I know I haven't been on here in a while, because I thought most of my stepkid problems were over. Of course not...things are never that easy right???

So back in January my SD24 (the youngest stepdaugter) got turned down for public housing because of all of her unpaid traffic tickets. The friend they'd been staying with for 3 months wasn't going to give them an extension on how long they could live there, because he'd already given them a month extension to find a place. It's my SD24, her boyfriend, and our grandson who is 5.

Of course my wife was crying over about what they were going to do, so like a dummy I said they could stay with us for 2 months with the following conditions. The boyfriend is a nice guy, but he is currently on probation. He grew up in foster care, and didn't have his birth certificate, Social Security card, or a drivers license. I told him he had 2 weeks to get all his paperwork straightened out, and after that he would be required to enroll in school or get a job. He's not a bad kid actually, as he is the one who takes care of our grandson since SD24 gets way too frustrated having to take care of her own child. We also told them that we are NOT going to be taking care of the grandson, as he is their responsibility.

So we let them move in, and of course I start to regret it. SD24 goes back to her same old routine of coming and going as she pleases, while the boyfriend is stuck at home watching her son. To be honest I actually started to feel bad for him, because he does a great job of raising our grandson, but he hardly ever gets a break when it comes to watching him. Plus SD24 pretty much treats him like crap. It took him a month, but
he finally got his birth certificate and Social Security card. There a few times where I've had a "man to man" conversation with him, and I told him that he needs to stop letting her treat him like crap. SD24 is so insecure that she doesn't even want him getting a job, because she's afraid he'll meet other women.

Their 2 months was supposed to be up on April 1st, and I gave them a 2 week extension. So SD24 has a male best friend who lives in Colorado, and he offered to let them move out there so they can get on their feet. I had another conversation with the boyfriend. I told him that it would be in his best interest to get a job as fast as possible when they move out there, so they can move out of that guy's place. This friend of SD24's is single, owns a house, and makes about $30 an hour.

I told him that it can be a stressful situation living with a single guy who is friends with your woman, especially if that guy is doing better financially. Plus you know if they ever have an argument, that guy is going to have SD24's back, not his. Not to mention at one point this single guy had a crush on SD24. Not the ideal situation, but I was just happy they were going to be moving a few states away.

So last night SD24 did something that finally pissed the boyfriend off enough that he decided to leave. SD24 literally had tears in her eyes begging him to stay, but he still left. On the one hand I was proud of him for finally standing up for himself, but I did feel a bit sad to watch both SD24 and our grandson cry. Our grandson calls him "Dad" because they've bonded so well.

So SD24 says she is still moving to Colorado, and might leave as soon as this Saturday. I even told her last night that we'll help with the plane ticket, but she needs to purchase them soon because the longer she waits, the price will go up. I want her to go ahead and purchase the plane tickets so she doesn't sit around and change her mind. I know that the longer she waits, the more likely it is that she will just try to convince DW to stay with us longer, which I am totally against.

So hopefully there is finally some light at the end of the tunnel. Moving to another state would be the BEST thing for SD24 because it would finally allow her a chance to grow up and not be so attached to DW's hip. Keep your fingers crossed for me!