Father's Day
It sucks.
When you have kids who are PASed, it's a painful day. You know you won't be acknowledged. You know your phone calls won't be accepted.
But you can be damn sure BM's hubby or flavor of the month will get gifts and be honored by the skids as "the best dad ever."
Father's Day bites. I just want it to be over with. I plan to keep DH busy to help keep his mind off of the two kids he's lost.
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I am doing nothing. I am
I am doing nothing. I am tired of watching a stb7 SS walk the floor with my SO and he says "YAY abuse me some more, I like it". I can almost bet money SS is going to say and do something unforgiveable tomorrow. SO will get upset, have a cry and then come home and pretend all is well.
We have skids this weekend
We have skids this weekend and it's horrible. They won't even wish DH a Happy Father's Day and he will be so miserable. And he fought to get this day in court. Meh.
I'm waiting to see what comes
I'm waiting to see what comes of DH's "almost adult" SK's, whether they will actually acknowledge him/Father's Day or not. Is it my responsibility to text them and ask them to come over? Part of me says yes, but part of me says they're old enough to know what day it is (they're almost 20, FFS) and it's all on them whether or not they show up. I've never once said they weren't allowed to just stop by.
I can't help but wonder if DH is thinking the same thing....
In younger years we went thru BM's shenanigans on Father's Day.... one classic was taking them to the lake under the pretense of having to stop by her aunt's house to pick something up. NINE hours later, late on Father's Day evening, she drops them off. So much for our brunch reservations and such for the day.
But as most parents are, if the boys need something like money or their car fixed, DH will do it no questions asked. Even if it means only getting 2 hours of sleep (he works nights) in order to "accomodate" their busy schedule (said facetiously, as neither of them work or do anything except game).
Sigh. I agree, this has to suck balls for some of these dads.
DH might get the obligatory
DH might get the obligatory phone call, if SD24 has the time, that is. She is awfully busy, seeing as she has no job and her kids are with their father this weekend. That was her excuse for not acknowledging his birthday. She said (a week later), "Yeah, I knew it was your birthday, I was just really busy." Whatever.
DH and I are going over to my dad's today for a cookout for Father's Day. All of us kids chipped in to get him a new lawn mower he's been wanting.
I'm sitting here thinking that I should have DH invite SD to the cookout, so she can spend some time with her dad but, shit, I really don't want to. It will turn into a whine fest about how she doesn't have the gas money and blah, blah, blah and DH will end up paying her (buying her gas) to come and see him. It'll just piss me off.
Then he'd probably invite her to spend the night and I'm just not in the mood for that right now. I should have thought about it sooner. Oh, well. I guess if she wanted to see her dad, she would take it upon herself to do something about it.
I kind of feel like a bitch, now. Crap.
You know what I'd like to
You know what I'd like to see/hear? My DH using the very same lines on his kids that they do on him when it comes to birthdays, Father's Day, Christmas, etc.... "I was really busy..." or "It was an oversight..." or whatever other lame excuse they have thrown out for being so freaking inconsiderate.
Hope springs eternal that the next time they call whining that they don't have any money (why you ask? Because they're 20 and JOBLESS) or their car is broke down DH will just ignore them, then a week or so later give them the "I was really busy" excuse.
Haha, DH did forget to call
Haha, DH did forget to call SD on her birthday one year. He didn't really forget her birthday, he just lost track of the date (was a week behind, in his mind) and I did not remind him (bitch move, I know but it was her 22nd birthday, she was not a young child or I would have reminded him).
So, late in the day, SD called. She gave him plenty of chances to tell her "Happy Birthday" but he was just oblivious. She finally had to tell him that it was her birthday. You better believe she called him bright and early on Father's Day that year (falls about a week after her Bday), just to rub it in that SHE did not forget.
What's funny is, the weeks before her birthday, she always reminds him that her birthday is coming up. Didn't do any good that year!
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DH has had it both ways -
DH has had it both ways - acknowledged (with a phone call or text only) on Fathers Day, and completely blown off and ignored, from SD23, over the years. I know it hurts him so I started celebrating with him regardless, and fortunately we are both cheap dates and it ends up being just a fun day and not related to being graded on how you are as a parent, by your kid.
I can't wait til, and hope that, SD wakes up one day, and I think she will, but she is not coming to visit this summer (which is fine by me oops), she made other plans, since he stopped paying her support earlier this year, at age 23. I would give anything to be able to talk to my dad
My DH got one text wishing
My DH got one text wishing him a Happy Father's Day. From MY bio, his SS.
Radio silence from SS and SD. He didn't act all mopey, thank goodness, but I just want to slap a brat or two. And their slut mother.