For years I thought BM was of average intelligence, but just liked the drama of the fight, and was confrontational to control and abuse DH.

Then I thought she was always starting arguments because she wanted DH's attention and even negative attention was attention from DH.

After we were in court and the judge yelled at her:
"use your DAMN common sense"
I started to think, maybe she is just ignorant. Maybe she doesn't have the mental capacity to comprehend. She acts like a 12 year old, she drinks like a fish, maybe the alcohol damaged her brain.

But last night, I WAS really stumped. She was again asking for an exception to the CO, and when told that we can make a change but
"it needs to be consistent all summer, your emails are argumentative and we will not be accepting any emails that are condescending or confrontational"

She write back "you don't have to use such big words"

I'm thinking she didn't understand, because the words were too big, I should have known when she sent her supervisor and email requesting insurance information for DH and spelled multiple words incorrectly!

Now I wonder if she is abusive, manipulative and controlling to cover up the fact that she is lacking common sense and normal intelligence!