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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 12:52pm

My blog isn't that interesting because we really don't have a lot of drama, but I need an outlet, so thanks for humoring me anyway.

Wednesday was a tough day. DH had to work late and I was on my own with the Magnificent Seven after a day of therapy appointments and dental appointments, which largely kept me from accomplishing much in the house or getting my work done (I work full time from home). The therapist wanted BM3 to be at SD6's therapy appointment that day because of all the stuff that had happened before BM3 went on vacation. When BM3 and SD6 came out of therapy, she asked what my plans were that evening. I told her I was solo, and she asked if I needed help. I gladly accepted, and she came over and helped with dinner and homework. It went really well. We usually get along really well. I don't know what's been going on lately.

That evening there was a note in SD6's folder about Family Night at the school (where my other daughters also attend). We decided to all attend together. It went really well. We decided to all go together to the school's fall carnival next month. It falls on her parenting time, but she doesn't celebrate Halloween, and SD6 really wanted to attend the carnival with her siblings (who all live here) so we usually all go together.

Things are coming around. Communication is opening back up and there is less tension.

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Submitted by kathc on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 1:13pm

wait, wait...you have a BM that you make dinner with and hang out with? Sorry, that is so odd. I mean, awesome for you if it's cool but I'm shocked that you have one who is like that. Most of them are crazy is how we ended up here!

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 5:52pm

Considering the other two BMs are completely psychotic, I am pretty surprised BM3 and I get along the way we do. She's a total troll to be married to, but a decent person as long as you don't have to rely on her for anything. She's very "me-centric" and self absorbed, but not a bad or dangerous mom, really. She and DH were utterly miserable married to one another, but she's got a guy who is more her speed and they seem happy together. When DH and I first moved in together she was kind of a psycho...he had to completely disengage from her and parallel parent until she got serious with the new guy and got over DH. Not that she was that into him to start with, but he left her, and so did her first husband (for the same reasons) so she was pretty bent out of shape about it. I understand.

She's got an XH from hell, so I think she really appreciates having DH and I to deal with because we're reasonable and pretty accommodating.

The school staff has had the same reaction, though. "Wow, you guys coparent together surprisingly well!" I don't have the energy to duke it out all the time, and BM3 stays so tied into it with her other XH, I think court has lost its luster for her as well.