DH’s friend is going through a divorce, his friend was been married for 3 years. We only know the friends side of the story but we know that they broke up just before the wedding over some issue which has never been told to us, but got back together and went ahead with the wedding. 

The wife is the one who initiated for the divorce and his friend either does not know why (as he claims) or has decided not to mention it. 

Anyways of course they are not getting along, fights about splitting items purchased together, having the house for sale, etc. Nothing crazy or out of the ordinary. 

Last night DH’s friend was over when he was emailed an offer on the house from their realtor. The house has been on the market forever and it’s a slow market here. He was quite positive about the starting point because it was at least at their bottom line of what they would accept. He called his ex and she wasn’t happy with it and the friend was worried that she would kill the deal. Long story short, it was worked out and accepted. 

Plater DH tells me he hates his friend’s soon to be ex. I said hate is a pretty strong word, so I don’t think you really hate her. He said yes he does. I asked if she ever did anything really terrible? Has she ever treated you poorly? He said no. I said I can understand if you don’t care for her, and he said no he hates her. The woman has always been nice to me, she has been polite to us through the awkwardness of the situation, so I don’t see how he can “hate” her. 

But it made me think I am totally justified in hating skid24. If DH can justify hating someone without them doing something terrible or without a personal attack on him, then like I said I am justified. 

So if DH pulls the “you hate my kid” card ever again, I will answer honestly and say yes I do and this is why. I don’t use the word hate lightly, but i can use it for skid24.