Quit cooking. I let SO do the majority of the cooking, because I was sick of hearing skids bitch and complain about it. I do the shopping, but do not buy anything that's strictly for SS, that's his father's job.

sd has done this for the last 2 yrs. how we handle it is i make what i want for dinner and sd is free to make a sandwhich or bowl of cereal. how old is ur ss? sd is 13 so she should be able to make her own mini-meal if she refuses to eat my cooking.

my ss used to eat what I cooked AND all the rest of the food in the damn house - once THREE boxes of poptarts during the night while I was asleep.

Dh's solution was to tell me to "buy more food" -- yeah, right...just buy more food rather than help the kid get a grip...idiot!

Sounds to me like your skid is doing this on purpose - just being difficult because it can.

sd sneaks food too, like poptarts, cookies, chips, 2L of soda. what i ended up doing was when i bought snacks i hid them and gave her a 'goody bag' variety of snacks that had to last her a week until i shopped again. im not much of a soda drinker, sd and bf are feinds, so i only buy the store brand and i only buy it when i shop.

once, when i bought the big bag of smaller bags of chips, she ate half the package (ten bags) in one night....then complained she felt sick the next morning...duh wonder why.

Yeah my SD rarely wants to eat what I cook either. Really pissed me off tonight. Needless to say she ate poptarts for dinner. Ugh....I'm so annoyed right now! The product of spoiling children. She got a Christmas card in the mail today and was mad there wasn't money in it.

DH's kid used to pull this same kind of crap. Gagging at the table, cringing when the fork went into her mouth and then making sounds like she was gong to be sick. The usual BS.

One night I had enough. She started on the gagging and making sounds like she was vomiting, telling us the meal was awful and gross. That was the last straw. I stood up so fast my chair fell back on the floor. I went into the kitchen and grabbed the garbage can and brought it to her side of the table. I grabbed her plate and silverware, scrapped her food into the trash and then took her plate, silverware and trash back into the kitchen. Put the trash can back and her dishes in the sink. Then I grabbed bread, turkey meat, cheese and mustard and dumped it on her place-mat.

I calmly walked back to my place at the table, righted my chair and sat down to finish my meal. DH and his kid's eyes were bugging out. Mind you, I didn't say a word the entire time I did this. Finally his kid pipes up and says "What am I supposed to do with this, what about my dinner?" My answer was (as best as I can remember now, this was about 4 yrs ago) "You can make yourself a sandwich or you can starve. I don't give a s**t which one you choose. But I don't want to hear another word or sound out of you for the rest of my meal!"

From that night on, DH made her dinner before I got home from work and she wasn't allowed to join us during our meal. I would cook something for us when I got home (unless he was grilling dinner) and we'd eat alone. She'd try and interrupt from time to time, but I would always send her butt back to her room.

I very rarely cook when she's over. When I do, she's not allowed to comment on my cooking (I rock it in the kitchen by the way) unless it's a compliment (DH's instructions, not mine).

Ahhhhhhhh.....only 2.5 year to go on visitation. 66 more trips to drive her home and be done with this s**t!

When you can buy and prepare your own meals you can eat whatever you want, until then eat what's in front of you or go hungry!
I recently saw a cartoon of a mother standing with the freezer open, and a little boy standing next to her. The caption read, "What am I making for supper? Why sweetie, I'm making whatever the hell I want served with a side of eat it or starve."
LOVED IT!!

Honestly, I think so many of kids' eating problems are of the parents' making, not directly related to the kids. I see so many parents who won't even serve their kids "different" food because they're afraid they'll reject it. That came face to face with me tonight.

I make whatever I want for dinner. I don't do special menus to accommodate my two BDs. Never have. DH always wanted me to ONLY cook what SD liked when she was with us. Um, no.

So I'm making potato soup. DH asks what I'm making and immediately starts asking loudly what our two BDs are going to eat. What do you mean? They're eating potato soup. Then he starts speculating loudly as to how our two BDs won't want to eat that. What are they going to eat? Um, potato soup.

I serve two bowls of potato soup, my two BDs look at it (normal faces), BD5 asks what it is, and then the both dig in. BD8 ate the whole thing ("this just tastes like mashed potatoes"), and BD5 ate everything but the onions. Never a complaint out of them. But to hear DH tell it, there was going to be a rebellion and I needed to bust out the chicken nuggets.

I have the same problem...SD11 doesn't eat what I cook either. She eats anything she damn well pleases (chips, cookies, sweets, McDonalds or other fast food, ect.) and DH serves it to her. :?