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Question: Ex-wife re-married...is she nicer?

happy mom's picture

For those of you who are in this situation please answer. Now that she is re-married, is she nicer to you? Less irritation? Less interference from her?

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Nise's picture

I WISH she would get married! She was engaged to her boyfriend who is living with her now…when they first got engaged you could tell the change. Life really is better when the bio mom is truly happy with herself and with her life…so at the time she first got engaged, Everything was roses….then the *&@! Hit the fan…I new that something must be wrong in her relationship b/c that is when the certified mail started to arrive and the notices that the child support order was being challenged, missed visits, etc. etc. etc…we’ll I found out from my husband’s cousin (who had run into her a few months prior) that she was supposed to get married this past Valentines Day (I never knew the exact date of the wedding) well Valentines Day has come and gone and although they are still living together they are not married…so there is obviously trouble in paradise. My husband says, that guy is not THAT STUPID…he’s lived with her long enough to know not to marry her! I hope my husband is wrong b/c the moment she finds fulfillment/happiness/piece will be the BEST day of OUR LIFE!

smom1007's picture

My BF keeps telling me that once his ex gets remarried, it will all be smooth sailing. I'm scared of who the ex will bring into her life because she seems to make all kinds of bad choices, but when she is busy dating someone new (bad influence on my SD or not) she's BUSY dating someone new, so life at our house is less disturbed by her and therefore much better.

purdy's picture

We only know of one bf she had probably for 6 months but she still interfered with our life and i think he got angry at her because she couldnt let go.I think that is why he left her he realized she was a mental case!!!It is hard to understand that when my husband was with her she couldnt care less now that he has moved on she is playing the victim .I dont know alot that went on at that time but we were at a rememberence day due on saturday with my husbands family and they just love me to bits which makes me feel good.My sisterinlaw asked how our kids were doing and i said good and she asked how they are when she brings different men home all the time.Like i said i didnt know alot that went on but i can just imagine what my husband went through.

Anne 8102's picture

According to my husband, she got worse. They separated many times during their marriage, but separated for good in 1997. The divorce was final in November 2000. She remarried in February 2001. We got married in December 2001. She was fine while she was single, because she had to be nice to get him to do stuff for her, like take the kids when she needed a break, hang pictures in her house, fix her car, etc. Also, she needed every dime she could squeeze out of him and she's always nicer when she wants money.

After she got married, then she suddenly wanted the kids calling her new husband "Daddy," which just about killed my husband. She wouldn't let him get the kids for visitation, stopped including him on p/t conferences, doctor's appointments, etc. Once she no longer had any use for him, she start trying to shut him out of the kids' lives. Then he married me and it got worse again, because now she no longer had her "back up plan" for in case her new relationship didn't work out. When I got pregnant, it turned absolutely hellish, because she'd had her tubes tied and couldn't get it reversed, so she couldn't have kids with her new hubby, who didn't have any kids.

In my husband's case, it got a lot worse in many ways, although he did find that he got along quite well with her new husband, which made it easier to make visitation arrangements. But I think it's probably different for everyone.

~ Anne ~

Nise's picture

One of the moms just recently remarried all 007 style and I don’t know that she’s gotten any better really b/c she married an abuser (this is first hand knowledge from her co-worker who is a friend of my husband and has seen some of her new husband’s “handy work”) so I think that she is more miserable (if that is possible) then she was before b/c she just wanted to be married soooooo badly (almost 40 and this is her first marriage) and now she is “stuck” with a NUT and we are happily married!

Make a GREAT Day!

purdy's picture

She used to call and taunt me about how she has the house and a good job and me and my husband have nothing now she lives in a not so nice house and got fired from her job so what goes around comes around.

lovin-life's picture

I believe in Karma....too.
Hubby's X didn't call and taunt us...but she did many other things, to rub her sports car, her expensive vacations, etc....which she paid for with the Spousal Support she lied in court to get....

Bottom line......the order for SS got reversed..
Her BF & her fought all the time......
She had to pay for all the expenses she racked up to be spiteful....
Sold off her possessions....
Declared backruptcy...
Moved back in with her mother.....
But on about 80lbs - 100 lbs....
And is COMPLETELY MISERABLE........if she wasn't miserable enough before....it is Karma at it's finest!!!!!

We've heard that BF isn't a very upstanding guy either, abusive to his old GF and also abusive to his X-wife.......and what's his is his and what's yours is his.....kind of attitude.

Surprise, surprise, BF wouldn't help her pay her bills......althought he helped spend the money...and enjoyed the trips, new furniture, new car, etc.(he still enjoys the furniture at his house)

You gotta love KARMA!!!!!!!!

PS She's miserable with or without a man!!