So, I posted the other day we were planning to go to my DH's mother's house...but after he called, we realized we could not (there were elections here, people get crazy on the streets, police are out everywhere, they live far, blah, blah, blah), as it would be a nightmare and possibly dangerous. HE CALLED HER BACK and told her it would have to be another day, that he had not realized that it was the day of the elections, etc...

Well, sure enough...today his brother calls him once again to tell him that his mother told his sister that she waited for him all day and he never showed up and she was upset, blah, blah, blah...My DH lost it. He told his brother that 1st. he had called his mother and told her he would not be coming 2nd. he was SICK AND TIRED of her instead of calling him to discuss any issues, going around to the whole family bad mouthing him and telling them stuff just so that they would gang up on him 3rd. he was sick of his brother calling and being the middle guy in this whole gossip mess...

He even told his brother...remember when I was little and you used to say that I seemed to be adopted or like I was switched at birth? Now I wish I HAD because honestly, I can't deal with any of your crap anymore. I have enough stress from my job and everyday life to be sucked into all the petty BS that all of you are constantly trying to start. DO NOT call me ANYMORE unless someone has died or is in the hospital. I will NO LONGER be a part of the games, I will no longer put up with this. Of course, at that point his brother BEGGED him not to call his mother because then she would know that HE told my husband what she had done and would no longer trust him...My DH told him that yes indeed, he was going to call her (has called 3-4 times today and nobody answers lol) and he himself was going to tell her that he was done with their petty BS gossip and games and if she needed him or wanted to talk to him, to call him directly...otherwise, he didn't want to hear anything else form anyone else and would no longer be sucked in.

So, honestly, I am proud of my DH. NOT because he is sick of them, but because for once, he has stood up to the crap these people do to him. He has busted his ass for years trying to do better for himself and all his family can do is put him down, gossip about him, blah, blah, blah...he is fed up. If you ever met him on the street, you would think he was the most gentle man you had ever met...he is. There is NOBODY in this world that I have met that does not like him...my family ADORES him, heck, they like him more than me...all my old friends ADORE him...his employees LOVE him, his ex-coworkers love him, etc...and yet his family has nothing better to do than to constantly start trouble.

Anyway, just had to get it out. Poor thing called to tell me because he is just fed up.

PS - his mother PASd him for over 30yrs and his brother and sister have bought into the BS of the mother...the victim crap. Just as she made my DHs dad's life miserable, she has tried to do with DH (I think he reminds her too much of his dad)...too bad. He is done.