So the other day someone here asked "would you let BM attend the funeral, etc. if your DH passed and the kids wanted her there for support"...My DH saw me reading and asked what I was reading...here is our conversation...

DH - what are you reading?
ME - about what I would do if something happened to you...would I let your EX be at your funeral etc? hmmm... it's stuff you don't have to think about because obviously for you it's a no brainer..."of course not!" since we had no kids together...but in your case, I worry...because what if your daughter wanted her there? but what if she causes problems?
DH - actually, I am more worried about you thinking about me dying...lol you really shouldn't worry...
ME - of course I do, I have to plan, etc...it's not something that you can think of while in distress...you know? and of course she will know...so the odds are that even if I don't allow her there, she might show up and I would have to either tell everyone ahead of time not to allow her or put up with it...hmmm
DH - why would she find out? there is nobody that SHE knows that needs to know if something happens to me...
ME - huh? well your family, your kid, etc would know...
DH - only if YOU tell them...I could care less...they have done nothing but hurt me...why are you even concerned about letting them know if something happens to me is beyond me...so don't worry, just tell your family and let them be your support and our son's support...
ME - (speechless)

I have to say this is NOT what I was expecting. Heck, he hardly talked to his lousy mother before we started dating and she actually THANKED ME when we started dating because he never called her before (he lived out of the country, etc...) until WE got together...hmmm...and with his kid? wow...I think he has truly just realized that no matter how good he is to her, she doesn't care and all she will ever do is hurt him...so he really doesn't care either...hmmm...oh my

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