So one of my dd14s friends rides the same bus as ss14. She told dd14 that ss14 was saying the reason he moved out of our home is because my dh was growing pot in our garage-said there was like hundreds of pot plants and he found them. He then said my dh told him he'd give him a joint everyday if he were nice to me!!! He said he wasn't nice to me and that's why he had to leave. Omg! He told another kid on the bus- I'm not sure if dd's friends overheard or if the other kid told him. Wtf? Who does that? I mean why completely fabricate a complete lie like that. If he wanted to give someone a reason why he moved out- he could have just said, my dads an asshole or my sm's a biatch". Those things aren't true either- but at least I can grasp that that's the way he sees it vs outright making up a lie that there were illegal stuff going on in my house.

I asked dh if he was going to say something to ss- and he said no-that ss is just like the rest of his family- that ss is obviously not interested in having a relationship with him if he!s saying that shit and basically just to eff him.

I gotta admit I am thinking about sending him a little message. I do not want this rumor swirling around. I am an advisor on a drug court panel. Obviously it hurts me professionally if people were to actually believe this nonsense. I also know that my dd14 will not be able to lkeep still if this spreads through the school and then there wil be a big ass blow up that may end up getting her in trouble somehow.

So what do you think? I don't expect him to admit it or be remorseful or any of that I just want him to know that we all know what a piece of shit he is and that he ought to watch HIs back as there are plenty of things that I could spread thru the community about HIM if I so choose.