That is always the question. For those unfamiliar with my situation-my dh has sole custody of ss15. However, he has not resided here but perhaps 4 month out of the last 5 years. Prior to that he lived with us full time since age 1. Currently he is residing with my inlaws. He has been there just over a year this go around. We have no contact with ss nor my inlaws. SS is not able to reside in our home for a mutltitude of reasons but to simply sum it up-he is a psychopath who is a danger to the other 3 children in the home. After he left this time, ss decided that he wanted no contact with dh and told him so over text message. We don't have contact any longer with the inlaws for another whole set of reasons including things like theft, deceit, drugs.

So anywho, we know that my ss was suspended this past school year for 2 weeks. The story we heard is that it was due to possession of paraphinilia in his locker. This dh heard from my mil's mouth, because she did call dh around March of this year to ask for a copy of our insurance card in order to take ss to counseling. OK. A few months later I saw on facebook my ss telling someone that he was "getting ready to be on probation". Wasn't a BIG surprise as I had heard the cops were called with the parpaphinilia deal. Then just a few weeks ago I saw ss15 outside our local courthouse at 830 in the am-to me this confirmed the probation thing as our courthouse is not even in ss's city and there'd be no reason for him to be loitering about it early in the morning unless he had a hearing of some sort or a meeting with a probation officer. Then just this morning I see he's made a comment on someones facebook that he's "fixin to be locked up on Aug 5th". He is at bm's now. I don't believe he's been to her house since January for one overnight. so that he is even there is a bit unusual, but he also said that was his last night there so I assume he is back to my inlaws.

Should I tell dh about the possible detention? My dh has his own share of mental health issues, which remarkably seem to have largely vanished since we have no stressors-no contact with inlaws or ss. We don't talk about them unless they make some sort of contact. So I hate to bring this up for no reason, at the same time, I feel like I am hiding something-which could potentially be big-if I say nothing. I also fully believe he may not be being sent anywhere. while I do believe he is involved with probation on some level, I believe he could just be saying that because to sound "cool"-it was actually in response to someone saying his old friend got sent off. I believe he could have a court date on 8/5-but him being sent anywhere is questionable. I also find it hard to believe that there would be a discussion of sending a kid to detention without even notifiying the legal guardian? My inlaws have no guardianship at all of ss because they refused.

So should I just keep my mouth shut or should I at least show dh's the post?