So BM's bi-polar disorder comes out the most in her Facebook posts...one day she's literally cursing the world for every little thing that goes wrong in her life, but the next she is going on and on about how much she loves her husband and kids and how lucky and thankful she is for all the great people in her life...as well as posting about every single insignificant thing that she does or that happens to her every day...well I was getting tired of having every detail of her life shoved in my face every single time I logged into FB, so I unsubscribed to her posts so they wouldn't just appear in my feed. I figure if I really need to see something on her profile, I'll look myself if I so choose.

I would just unfriend her, but I feel like that would be rude since we've mostly had a decent relationship. It is annoying to me that we're even friends on there, since we managed to keep our lives pretty separate until escalating problems with SD12 finally hit a point where we had to start collaborating and meeting all together to talk last year (coincidentally when FH and I got engaged). Being that SD is just like her mom, I should have known that spending a few hours with BM would cause her to believe that we are now BFFs because she added me on FB like 5 min after I walked out of her house. I'm sure it had alot to do with me sticking up for BM and giving SD heck in front of everyone for being disrespectful to her mother. I said that no one in this whole world will ever love you as much as your mother does, so to hear that you have been rude and yelling at her just makes me sick to my stomach. Well, BM started crying and thanked me so much for what I said, so like I said, it was no surprise that she added me on FB.

But then seeing everything about her life all the time was starting to get to me, so I unsubscribed to her posts in my news feed. But even then I couldn't escape her because she started tagging me in pictures of SD (presumably so that I'd look at them), which made me uncomfortable because if I want to look at her pics of SD they are there on FB so I could do that at any time. Since I'm not on FB very much, I don't really want my name being linked to her profile in any way. My friends don't really know much about BM and I'd like it to stay that way. So I got FH to ask BM politely to stop tagging me in her pictures of SD. He assured her we'd look at the pics from time to time (nope).

So everything was fine until we had to spend an hour together at SD's Judo last week. Again, we talked politely, which I guess led BM to thinking that we were BFFs again because she posted on my FB wall how nice it was to see me and that it meant alot to SD that I came to see her at her class. Fine, ok no big deal, but because she posted on my wall, I was going to respond on hers so I clicked on her profile.

Again, the up and down hating everyone then saying she actually cries every time she thinks about how much she loves her husband, etc. same old same old...but then a post from a few days ago that says she traumatized SD. I was curious, so I asked what happened. Apparently SD heard things she shouldn't have coming from her mom's room the other night(presumably because SD was lurking outside the bedroom like she does here) and then threw a spazz, stomping loudly up the stairs to her own room and slamming her door. Her mom went to talk to her and said that she and her husband love each other very much and if they didn't kiss then she wouldn't have a little brother and sister. SD said "I know that babies come from more than just kissing, my dad's fiancee told me all about it!"

Yes, I was asked by both BM and FH to give the "talk" to SD12 about puberty and reproduction since it will be starting soon for her and I'm a teacher so I actually have handouts and worksheets to go along with it and make it more clinical rather than embarrassing. Plus I've taught it before so it's no big deal to me. At first BM was mad that I had the talk (because she didn't remember asking me to do it and thought I was overstepping) but then was relieved that at least she doesn't have to do it (though she did have some 'splaining to do to SD the other night because SD believed that her mom only ever had sex to have babies and never at other times)...

The weird thing was that BM told all of the details via wall post comments and not private messages...it's a little annoying to me that she puts things that are so personal on her FB page, but also that particular incident was hilarious to me and her as well and we actually shared a laugh about it...except now I'm sure SD will be on constant sex-watch and will be thinking that every time she is not in the room with FH and I that we'll be doing it...I should seriously put some black grease around the keyhole of my bedrooom door just to confirm my suspicion that that's where SD hangs out most of the time when she gets up before us.

Due to SD's already insane jealousy of me, what happens if she does eventually hear something? She's going to flip out on us WAY more than with her mom...man, I long for the days when she didn't know about the birds and the bees...you can bet there will be a big rock with my name on it just waiting to be hurled from the proverbial window...