SD is attending the shower next weekend
And DH didn't even have to sit down to have a "talk" with BM about it or whatever "parenting page" she wanted to be on. He took SD's headphones to her on Tuesday and walked to the door because it was cold outside. BM told him that SD could attend the party and that was that. Wow, BM, so it was unnecessary being so difficult about it?? Oh yeah, you've never been anything BUT difficult.
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Well ... post again when she
Well ... post again when she's at the shower. BMs like this have a way of appearing to be reasonable and then getting what they want anyway. Wouldn't be surprised to hear that SD comes down with Bubonic Plague and can't come to the party.
I did think that BM may try
I did think that BM may try to go back on it just to be a jerk but it's our week with SD so she'll be with us either way. Even if SD gets sick, she'll still push to see her friends that are attending. Kids are never too sick to be at a fun event, as I've learned with SD.
I think you need to let go of
I think you need to let go of any outcome from SD and just go with it the day of. It won't be of your doing if she can't come. It is out of your hands. Enjoy your shower and rejoice with the ones who are there.
Thank you. My only concern is
Thank you. My only concern is SD's school friends that are attending will need to be notified if she won't be there.
They won't die if she's not
They won't die if she's not there.
This is your first baby, enjoy your shower, stop worrying about SD. I stressed too much about this stuff with my babies shower.
I just mean there's no point
I just mean there's no point in them or their families being there if SD isn't there. I am not worried at this point, to be honest. I will have so many other people to socialize with.
If SD doesn't show up, let
If SD doesn't show up, let HER explain where she is. It will make BM look like an ass played right. Her friends can be a bigger influence. Making BM explain keeping SD from the party after it was agreed on (which is the part you share, and play dumb after that is said) will make her look like a petty dumbass. All on her own. This is the best and easiest way to bare her ass as Rags likes to say.
So you might think there is no reason to be there but that's only if you waste any opportunity BM gives you by chance. Not sure if your BM practices the smear campign, by showing SD's families how gracious you can be, compared to BM , you give them something to think about.
So really, you don't have to worry if she is there or not. It will play out one way or another, you just need to be prepared for both .