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Lame Update: normal life

Indigo's picture

AWOL SD-31 has surfaced. The same day that SO and I were discussing a "missing persons" report.

SD-31 called SO hysterically sobbing, virtually incoherent. She woke up in her car with no idea where she was, AND her car was not running right. SO says she kept asking him to help her even though we are a state away. So, while I researched mental health/drug-alcohol inpatient facilities in NM, SO called her bio-mom since SD has been in contact with her & bio-mom lives in the same city (surrendered rights to SD @ 10 and SO/late wife adopted out of system).

Bio-mom who has reportedly switched to meth is still more functional than SD since she has a job & apartment. She sent someone to find SD. SD now refusing any 911 emergency care/commitment measures while claiming that she had a stroke or a reaction to her untreated, self-diagnosed bipolar which she is managing with pot.

I spoke with Behavioral Health in New Mexico and was told: "Someone waking up in their car, disoriented with no memory, history of drug/alcohol/mental health issues and their car not working happens ALL THE TIME" and was not cause for placement. Seriously.

Last we heard SD called her ex-BF to come get her and fix her car. Ex-BF has been storing SD's crap since he kicked her out 4 months ago. Hope my crock-pot is still there. No response to any subsequent messages left for her.

I told SO that she likely sobered up and has slipped off the radar again. Still not aware that her own daughter has had so many issues and is moving out of state in January ... no idea what is happening to her 2 boys who are w/bio-dad but under custody of the state.

Returning to "normal," I guess.

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lintini's picture

Wow, that is just terrible. What was your SO hoping the outcome would we for getting in touch with her methy mom?

I thought step grand daughter was living with you guys? Or are you all moving?

What a mess!

Indigo's picture

SGD-13 is moving to another state with her biodad/SM who wish to gain residency and attend a different college.

SO has spoken to SD's bio-mom a few times, but SD-31 had been crashing with her until SD-31 took to her car again. SO figured that perhaps if SD had a stroke in actuality, perhaps bio-mom could get her to call 911 etc.

We are all staying here in Colorado waiting for the next influx of crazy BM's who love to migrate here. Thank you fellow STepTalkers who send their silliness this way.

--figureditout--'s picture

Behavioral health in NM is very hesitant to help because they are overwhelmed with the numbers. They keep shutting down rehab beds, so a lot of very sick people end up in the corrections system. Add that to the fact that the police are scared after a mentally ill man was shot by 2 idiot cops who were not trained to deal with negotiations and they are even more.

If you could get her to voluntarily go in, they would be more willing to offer services....especially if she is in Albuquerque.

Indigo's picture

Yup, she was in Albuquerque. Ex-BF lives outside of Taos.

I got the distinct impression that Behavioral Health is beyond overwhelmed. The gentleman that I spoke to was excruciatingly honest: SD's story is one that they hear multiple times daily. Black-out drunk/drugged ... drove car through an arroya or over the McDonald's curbs and it no longer works and wake up amazed/confused. Behavioral Health gave me the gold key password: "Suicide or homicide, WITH A PLAN."

SD-31 had about 10 minutes where she was willing to voluntarily go ... the window closed.

I cannot imagine working in a system with such limited resources and such immense need.

Acratopotes's picture

sending you hugs Indigo...... I hope you and DH can start ignoring her tricks.... if some one should call you and say she's missing, you have to be able to say... darn let us know if you found her... the end...

I know it's easy for me to say...... but what she's doing is her own decision, now people try and help her and she refuses, sorry she should be left alone, you can't help a person who does not want to be helped