Let me just start by saying I worry about everything all of the time. So what might not be a big deal I still worry about. My husband thinks I'm crazy but I just wanted the opinion of some others:

My kids are growing up. It happens to us all. A bitter sweet fact to life. My baby girl is almost one now. My adorable toddler is now your typical sour patch kid (first their sour then their sweet) and my chubby cheek sweet step daughter is now looking more like a child, going to school, reading, speaking like an adult. YIKES how did this happen??

Long story short, lately when my step daughter comes home she seems distant. Not sure if something is going on with school, or with mama, or with her, or with us but I do know that she is distant. Kind of how teenagers keep to themselves all the time. Nothing major has happened that we know about but she seems almost sad at times. Her sisters get on her nerves more than they use to. She doesn't want to give her friends our phone numbers like she use to. She has even gotten where she makes comments about "her" stuff comparing it to "our" stuff. Example: when she plays on the swing set at home she says "My swing set doesn't let you swing as high as your swing set lets me swing." The thing of it is, it's not our swing set...it's her swing set. It makes me kind of sad to think about but I know as children get older they have a preference of which house they want to be their home. I want her to always be where she wants to be and for me it is not a competition as to which house she prefers. I just want her to be where she feels like she is home.

My question:

Should I stop loving her so much and just let her accept in her mind that this is not her home? Because to me I feel like it is her home. She has stuff here that is hers and her sisters know that is her stuff and they cannot mess with it unless she says so. She has a bed here. She has a bike here. She has a ton of clothes and shoes and toys. She has friends who come play with her here. She goes to church here. Santa comes to visit her here. The Easter Bunny comes to visit her here. We do things together as a family all the time. But should I allow her to let this go? Should I treat her more like a guest? I just get so sad watching her feel sad or guilty for loving all of us.

I've prayed, I've talked to my husband, I just want some advise on how I should act because I don't want her to feel guilty for anything. Is it just because she is getting older that she is acting this way? Is it my anxiety getting the best of me?