Another email from the school counselor
So we got another email from the school counselor. All it says is:
Hi, we were wondering when SDs next weekend with dad is? SD is planning on spending some more time with dad next time she is there. She would like to play some legos with him. Looking forward to her report.
Wtf?!
I'm getting pretty irritated that some stranger that hasn't spoken to DH is dictating to us what we're going to be doing specifically with her and needs to know what weekend she's going to be here.
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I hope your DH plans to
I hope your DH plans to ignore this type of message and only respond to things that are important. SMDH
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That is a really strange thing from the school.
How does your husband respond to these sort of communications? He may consider contacting the administrator and inquiring about the nature of the contact.
First has your DH verified
First has your DH verified that this is in fact an actual school counselor who is working for the school district and is actually in fact working at SD's school and is not some "friend" of BM's who is doing this as a favor to help get back at DH for some imagined wrongs?
Second if it is a valid counselor I would CC the principal of the school on my reply to the counselor asking that they refrain from sending me messages about how to parent on my time with my child lest the school finds themselves slapped with a defamation of character lawsuit or something to that effect.
It's for sure her because I
It's for sure her because I've spoken to her myself before on behalf of my son. Contacting the principal is a good idea.
Good Gawd
I can only imagine what the BM says to the school. The SM never lets SD and daddio play together. She is broken up by not playing leggo with daddy.
This sounds weird. I dont have kids so no clue what school therapists sends out, but this email sounds trivial. Like condescending. They are taking away from encouraging SD to speak up and tell dad what she wants to do.
This is SD all the way, imo.
This is SD all the way, imo. She makes weepy face and the teacher is like, ohhhh whatever is wrong little lamb? And SD eats that sh!t up.
Oh yes, she told me she'd
Oh yes, she told me she'd rather talk to the counselor that be at lunch with her classmates. She meets with her during lunch once a week.
The tone of that is so
The tone of that is so inappropriate. I could see if it was part of an ongoing dialogue between dad and the counselor, but just randomly out of the blue like that is strange and unprofessional. It seems very apparent that the counselor is being manipulated by BM or SD (or both). I would 100% respond and CC the principal.
"we were wondering" We? The
"we were wondering" We? The counselor and who? Or is this the royal we?
"Looking forward to her report." Who put the counselor in charge of dad's time?
"play legos with him" Do you even have legos or are you supposed to buy them for this visit? If SD wants to ride a pony, should you have to arrange it if she is "looking forward" to it?
If DH had hired a parenting counselor, this email might be ok. But, this is a school counselor and dictating that he should be Disney dad is not ok. If DH were my husband, I'd be encouraging him to call the principal and inquire about the parameters of this counselor's job.
Be aware though that since this counselor seems to have a poor understanding of her job, once BM loses control of the counselor after DH complains, a visit from children's services may be in the offering.
I'm unsure what the
I'm unsure what the principals reaction will be. I just can't see how that email could possibly have been appropriate unless she was misled by BM to think DH was onboard.
What happens if he doesn't
What happens if he doesn't play Legos?! What if they play Lincoln Logs instead? Or, gasp, what if he takes good care of her but doesn't play a game? She sounds like so much fun to play with...
She needs playtime with daddy
She needs playtime with daddy. If she plays by herself like other 4th graders she's neglected.
He should start by contacting
He should start by contacting the counselor and asking her what's up with the sudden interest in what he does with SD? And let her know that if she doesn't plan to hear his point of view, she should please stop instructing him on how to be with his daughter.
You know what's ironic is
You know what's ironic is that the counselor is actually making their relationship worse because DH is getting really angry and resentful at being treated like a POS deadbeat.
^^^THIS^^^^ 100percent THIS^^
^^^THIS^^^^ 100percent THIS^^^^^
Counselor is stepping WAY over the line.
IF this was so critical she should have called you, not send some cheesy email THEN add's she cant wait for the report. WTH?
I would ask how many sessions has had with my child. WHAT are the dates of those sessions.
Then I would make sure she calls you directly with all concerns she may have about the well being of your child. AND I would also let counselor know you thought it was beneficial to forward all emails to your lawyer.
OP---be careful, something is brewing...
This is very strange.
Yeah I have a really bad gut
Yeah I have a really bad gut feeling about it. Like it's a setup of some sort. Either that or she's a BM herself or SD and is projecting. I've had about enough of that BS. I'm also both and this is ridiculous.
IMO, the letter doesn't sound
IMO, the letter doesn't sound like a professional person wrote it.
No, it does not. It is
No, it does not. It is however, the legitimate address for the school counselor.
Uck, how thoroughly annoying
Uck, how thoroughly annoying that this is the type of communication your DH gets.
It's very condescending.
It's very condescending.
People who can not make it
In the real world become school counselors. What type of counselor is she ? Did she have previous discussion with DH about SD or is this just out of the blue? Does SD gets daddy daughter time ?
BM set this all up so she's
BM set this all up so she's going off of BM and SDs word alone. DH has never spoken to her. SD refuses to have anything to do with any of us. Her story to us is she doesn't want to come to our house because we don't let her talk to strangers on the internet and she has a better tablet at her moms. According to BM, SD claims DH doesn't spend any time with her.
Makes me want to throw out the legos
Haha
Seriously though not cool. Now sounds like mom has befriended her and she is on their side or something weird. Also, why are they letting her spend all her lunch time at the counselors? That's strange. She needs to spend time with kids her age making friends. I agree with contacting the principal.
Shes only with her at lunch
Shes only with her at lunch one day a week, but it's still weird that she'd rather do that.
The counselor is 53 and had I love my daddy memes all over her Facebook so....gonna guess she thinks she's saving a sweet little girls life basically.