Going Out In Public...Just need a vent
I have gotten to the point of not wanting to go out in public with BF and SD9. I am embarrased...I feel like such a loser when we all go somewhere. I guess it is because I am completely left out most of the time. When we go to the store SD rides in the cart and hugs on dad while begging for everything that catchces her eye (and gets most everything). Not only is that annoying but very distracting. I have gotten to the point where I just go down another aisle so people might not think I am with them. Isn't that awful of me but it is embarrassing. They walk around hand in hand while I walk behind them. At the movies, SD9 sits on her dads lap and holds his hand. I might as well not be there. I never get to sit by my BF so I don't try. A guy hit on me one time because he didn't realize that I was with my BF because he never talks to me because he is distracted all the time with his daughter. Sorry girls I just needed to vent...
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Have you tried talking to
Have you tried talking to your DH about it and telling him thats how you feel? Maybe he just doesn't realize he is doing it. My SO used to do that kind of stuff, before we had a sit down, and now he realizes he's doing those kind of things.
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SD9 sits on her dads lap
SD9 sits on her dads lap during the movies???
I am sick. I thought my DH was slightly over affectionate wit SD. This is just downright inappropriate.
Can you insert yourself? When they are walking hand in hand, put yourself in the middle. You grab BF in one, and SD9 on the right.
My SD is 9 as well. She has a few of the affection issues, but not like this. She likes to lay all over her dad when we are watching movies, but DH is slowly weaning that too. He has made a good effort to not make me feel like the third wheel, but I had to speak up first.
Have you told BF how u feel?
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Rome wasn't built in a day, and my marriage won't be either.
she rides in the grocery
she rides in the grocery cart at 9? for real?
how often do you have her?
how often do you have her? we have our skids every weekend and my sd10 use to do that. I found myself getting jealous. but then realized that's all it was(a little jealousy). i realized that I need to probably back off a little bc I get to see him ever day and sd10 doesn't. I now let her sit next to him on the couch (instead of me) . when we go to a restaurant and I want to sit by him, I just say so. or he sits in the middle of us (well I mean at the movies for example).
SD11 jumped into the grocery
SD11 jumped into the grocery cart and had daddy push her, but it's because she's jealous of the new baby girl, who was also in a cart. Looking around the store it was kinda scary how many big kids were in carts being pushed around by parents actually.
"I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. I know I can."
— Little Engine That Could
She lives full time with
She lives full time with us....very rarely does she go to her mother's or anywhere else. This is all the time deal. I'm sure that there is some jealousy on my part but I do think it is a bit much and yes folkmom...she really still rides in the grocery cart...lol Se is small for her age just about 52 lbs at nearly 10(whole other subject about the weight thing). If we only had her every other weekend I wouldn't think a thing of it. I haven't ever talked to my BF because I just thought it was me being jealous. I think he knows it bothers me because every once in while he will try to hug me or hold my hand if I look unhappy.
my SD is almost 10 and
my SD is almost 10 and weighs around 67 lbs. she is tall though. but man...i cannot even imagine.
since you have SD all the
since you have SD all the time then i would prob be uncomfortable. just tell him you know it sounds crazy but you feel like a third wheel sometimes.
She definitely should not
She definitely should not say "I know this sounds crazy."
That is laying the groundwork for DH to dismiss her claim as frivolous. If she wants to be taken seriously with this, she can't second guess herself.
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Rome wasn't built in a day, and my marriage won't be either.
yes, you are so right.
yes, you are so right. she'll say "listen here bitch" lol
He has told me that he
He has told me that he really wants to take a vacation this year which will be absolutely miserable to me if things were like they were last year when we went to Sea World SA. We stayed over night and I had to sleep on a pullout bed
I really do needto talk to him and tell him how I feel or get over it I guess.
WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Please
WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please tell me that you did not sleep on a pullout bed while they slept in the same bed.
Please say I am way wrong here. Seriously.
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Rome wasn't built in a day, and my marriage won't be either.
Yes mam I slept in a pullout
Yes mam I slept in a pullout bed with an itchy blanket:P
well he is your BF. you CAN
well he is your BF. you CAN dump him.
oh hell no. that is
oh hell no. that is unacceptable. that us straight up bullshit. have the talk. I hope it goes well.
OMG!! i don't know where to
OMG!! i don't know where to start on how wrong his behavior is...
how much do you have invested?? have the talk if you can stomach it, i was sick after reading your post.. is packing up & hauling ass an option??
i'm sorry chickie, you should not have to feel like this or sleep on a fucking roll out ----
You should have flirted back
You should have flirted back with that guy at the movies!
Because your BF sure needs a wake up call.
He's got 2 hands, not so?? That's enough for both you and his daughter.
Do you shrink away hoping he'd notice you?? Maybe what you need to do is push yourself in.
e.g. Don't walk behind, walk on the side and grab a hold of his free hand.
"I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. I know I can."
— Little Engine That Could
little engine, does she
little engine, does she really need to PUSH her way into a man that LOVES her arms....?
i say no honk on bo-bo, no sheet thunder and no good meals until jojo know what she can & can not live with.
Thanks girls...I do need to
Thanks girls...I do need to hear others point of view especially to let myself know that I am not crazy for feeling this way. I know it doesn't and shouldn't have to be this way. When I was married to my son's dad, he had a daughter and it was very different. Everyone is right...Definately time to have to have the talk...I need to get all my ducks in a row first though in case it doesn't go well.