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What the hell was I thinking???

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 03/08/2012 - 10:32am

I sent a last email to BM after she sent an email calling me an angry bitter woman. Yes, I responded. I suggested that we meet at a therapists office to work on our tenuous relationship. I figured it would call her bluff and she wouldn't do it.

I was wrong and got an email just now telling me her availability and to set it up. Crap!!! I am so sure this will not end well. Sent the email to DH and asked him how he wanted to deal with it.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Thu, 03/08/2012 - 10:36am

Is this meeting supposed to be just you and her or all three (four?) of you? Who is going to pay?

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 03/08/2012 - 10:41am

I'll pay, insurance is good. I do think it should be all four of us. Although Paul Bunyan (BM's DH) is not involved in any of this mess. He stays out of all of it.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 03/08/2012 - 11:53am

I made an appt for tomorrow with the therapist that DH and I had seen right after the wedding. We saw her three times and felt it was making it worse. We spent an entire session discussion interior decorating. So we quit. I do not have a lot of options on female therapists in this town that deal with this type of situation. There are 6 and of those 4 have already seen at least one of the Stepkids or the BM's SD after her expulsion.

Therapist will meet with me tomorrow and then arrange a meeting for both of us. Honestly, this does give me the upper hand. DH wants to stay out of it, in case all hell breaks loose and he needs to be involved after that. I don't really want him there, since she hates him and that would muddy this even more.

My goal is to clear the air about what has happened and stop the bitching about each other to SS. I try, but she makes it very difficult when he tells me what she says about me...

I will be taking the emails with and all the ones in the past so the therapist has the background info.

I have had my own therapist for years and there is no way in hell, I want that to be involved in this mess. I never know when I may need him again. Anniversaries are still hard for me and it causes anxiety. The tenth anniversary last month was hard and I foresee needing him again as my son hits some large milestones.

I am thinking of pushing the record button on my phone. If nothing else, so DH can hear it.