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Submitted by KatDarling on Mon, 04/18/2011 - 12:05pm

I just need to get out some of the things that annoy me about BM. I'm hoping it will make me feel better.

FDH pays many of your bills, your parents give you grocery money and you only work two days a week, if that! Yet you still complain that you have no money. You are 31 years old, work more than two days a week and you will have money you moron.

You are just impossibly trashy. Your good friend is eight months pregnant and you go to their house, get drunk, and try to make out with her boyfriend? Who does that?

You get rid of your daughter (9) whenever possible. My FDH calls your house to say goodnight to his daughter. She isn't there, she is at her grandparent's house. Why? Because BM has to get up for work the next morning. That's called parenting BM!

You constantly lie to your daughter, you lie about me and you lie about her dad. Please grow up for the sake of your child.

You refuse to go along with setting reasonable rules, chores, and consequences!

You send me text messages harassing and threatening me, when I threaten you with a restraining order you text me anonymously from a website. When I tell you that I know it is you, you deny it and proceed to send me even more threatening texts.

I tried to keep this list to the things that create actual problems. Don't get me started on the trashy way she dresses, the way she dresses her NINE year old, the way she let her daughter get highlights ...

UGH!

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Unfreakingreal's picture

Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Mon, 04/18/2011 - 12:10pm

Feel better? LOL... Our BM leaves SD10 at my MIL's house ALL summer long because it's too much work to get up early everyday and drop the kid off in the mornings. On the weekends when SD10 is not at our house, SD10 is at everyone else's house except with BM. If BM didn't count on CS to live she'd probably have handed over the kid by now. Hope you feel better!

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 04/18/2011 - 12:42pm

I hopeyou feel better. It's sad to see that there are so many people out there who use their kids as paychecks and nothing more.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 04/18/2011 - 1:35pm

Vent away.... and stop threatening her with an RO and DO IT!!!!

The only way to control these toxic vitriolic dip-shits is to beat them in to submission. It took us a while but we finally beat my SS-18's SpermIdiot and SpermClan in to submission and kept them under their rock for the last ~13yrs of our 17yr blended family adventure.

Don't play her games, make her play yours. We keep a copy of the CO in our home offic and my wife and I keep a copy in our desks at work. We also keep copies of the Supplemental Rules for the jurisdiction where the CO is held. When the SpermClan steps out of line we role up the docs and beat the snott out of them. When the SpermIdiot or SpermGrandMa call to play games we pull out the CO and the Supplemental Rules and stick to them. Interestingly they have never figured out that all we are doing is reading the CO and rules to them. It really pisses them off but following the CO and rules keeps things manageable and reduces the drama. You can tell the Skids that you have to follow the CO whether BM wants to or not. That puts the drama where it belongs.

ZERO TOLERANCE fixes the crap you are dealing with. I suggest that you sit DH down and inform him of your new zero tolerance policy for the toothless moron BM.

If you are the CP household make sure you file for amendment of CS every two years, nail BMs ass to the wall if she deviates from the visitation schedule at all, etc.... The same applies if your are the NCP household. Stick to the CO and force BM to comply with the CO.

All IMHO of course.

Good luck