Its been great actually. He has been at friends houses. I barely see him, or talk to him, and if i have to say something i text it.

Well ss comes home for dinner last night.

Dh starts talking to him about school, apparently the school program for hw and school work is back up and running. So dh got notifications. He starts asking him about the missing work, and his gym shirt he has yet to buy. (He lost 3 gym shirts last year, and dh bought him a plain grey one that he wont wear, because its toooo hot!! He wears jeans to school!) Ss is just filled with excuses. Anyway ss needs to "get it together" without any punishment if he does not "get it together", drives me nuts.

I feel like smacking dh, like wake up idiot!

Anyway ss asks dh about getting ready for bed. (This is ss way of getting out of school work convo- yes i know what he is doing! This goes over dhs head!)

Ss knows he has to get ready for bed at 830pm. No if ands or butts. Its the only thing im invovled in is bedtime.
Ive tried to disengage on that but i cant! For a few reasons. He asked dh about bedtime, because on monday he waited till after dh got in shower, then distracted and talked to dh for half hour, did not brush his teeth till almost 10pm...so tuesday i go in his room, at 8pm and tell him to get ready for bed. Omg he is,shocked...what 8pm! Well im over the warnings. He is going to be 13, bedtime crap does not change for the entire school year. What he is trying to do, is hide out till dad forgets about him then he wont brush his teeth or put his,rubberbands for braces in. I will not waiver on bedtime.nope.
Dh reminded him wednesday.(so he lucked out on an 8pm bedtime)
Since ss was getting irritated dad was calling him out on things. I guess he wanted to drag me in. He asked dh about his bedtime, dh said 830. Ss cant drop it, says well she said 8pm, so what is it? Looking at me. (I did not say a word, if felt like they were starring at me for 15minutes) finally dh says are you going to answer him? Why?! Why should i entertain this? So i say "you already answered him, he knows 830pm." Done. Ss is not done. Whines but on tuesday you said 8pm i just need to know 8 or 830p because blah blah blah.

Me " your father told you 830, you know 830, if you feel you cannot trust yourself with 830, then maybe you should set your alarm on your phone for 8. If you keep talking to me it will be 730. Your choice."

Ss shuts mouth stomps in room.

Dh "why do you have to be so harsh."

Me ready for war now!!!

What? Harsh? Are you kidding me? You let him direct that stupid ass attitude towards me!!! Wtf.

I should have texted ss my response.

So we end up having a fight.

He finally apologized. I can tell he still is not sure how its his fault, or why im mad.

I cannot say anything to this tween! Dh is such an effing pushover!! Ahhhhhh
Maybe ss bad habits would not be coming back so fast if you would start having a backbone!! His "i forgot" has gotten to a new level, and some of his adhd habits are starting to happen, because NOONE is on him or making him follow through!!!

Man felt good to vent...