Some beacon of hope

So last weekend went off awesome. BM does not have a bath at her home so I got the kids bath bombs and they loved it. Both were gracious and in a great mood all weekend.

We visited DHs family for a bit and went home where we watched space jam 2 ( which was awful) but we had an amazing time. My DH took pictures of us dancing around when the movie got boring as I wore my parody bugs bunny kigurimi ( basically large saggy pajamas )

Besides the kids deciding that I needed to eat carrots which I made them as well because healthy snack, it was a great time. They both declared me the best step mom ever. They talked to me about anything and everything as the movie was boring even to a 6 and 8 year old.

I am very afraid everything will backfire.

But on a positive/negative ask for advice : I have a lot of Disney points from a credit card. I was initially saving them up to take us , the stepkids, his sister bil and dad , and my mother to Disney. We live a little over an hour away so we'd get a vacation home etc to do so. With my mother's recovery being very long term to the point that even if she fully recovered my points will expire I approached DH about just taking the kids to animal kingdom ( they only ever go to magic kingdom with their mom , my husband hates Disney but likes the concept of kids learning things) and with the extra points just grabbing food. I would not have DHs family as honestly if my mom isn't there the idea sucks. They aren't bad folks but the original idea was just for some of my family to meet his.

Would I be a jerk to just have a small trip with the kids without his family? I did bring it up to my sister in law a long time ago as it would be good for the kids to spend more time with them I just really don't want to manage them on top of the kids without the support of my disneycentric mom. I hope someday I can have a trip there with her but we don't even know if she'll fully regain speech again. Or movement.

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I don't think you owe his

I don't think you owe his extended family a trip to Disney or anywhere really. If it works then great, if it doesn't then stiff. They can take their own kids. I'm in Australia and DH has family scattered across a few states. The messed up thing about Australia is that pre Covid it was cheaper to get flights to Bali than cross country and cheaper to rent a villa than a hotel in Australia. We spoke many times about the whole family flying out to Bali for a special holiday. But times change. I doubt that we'll all simultaneously be free from lockdown and be able to arrange leave from our jobs at the same time. The moment I get the green light to fly, i'm outta there! Circumstances change, finances change, plans change. It's more important for me to have family alone time than to run around juggling kids from 4 different households.

There is zero obligation for

There is zero obligation for people to be taking extended family anywhere let alone expensive trips regardless if you have credit cards points or pay cash. .

"Would I be a jerk to just

"Would I be a jerk to just have a small trip with the kids without his family?"

You're kidding, right? You owe them absolutely nothing and definitely not an all expenses paid holiday! They can meet youir family some other time - if they were so motivated to do so, they'd have found a way of doing so - coffee, dinner, etc. Go and have a blast at Animal Kingdom, don't you think you've deserved it?

BTW, you were a huge hit with the skid because you weren't trying, you were just being you