Let me guess. . .

You either live in:

NJ
NY
MA
CA

I could be wrong about this but this type of militantly "BM can do no wrong" type judges/magistrates are mostly found in the above listed states.

I'd be a little irritated at the lawyer about now. Sounds like they're using this to get money out of you without really fixing anything. It's not in their best interest to actually help you win. If you don't basically tell them what to do they'll just make it drag out as long as possible. (My sister was in court for 11 years.. believe me i know!) You have to treat them like they are employees, instead of relying on them to know what is best.

Ironically she actually won her case once we couldn't afford the lawyer anymore and she started researching herself and representing herself.

The main advice they give is to just become really familiar with your state laws. Also, instead of trying to constantly show how bad the situation is with the BM, instead try to show how good the situation is at your place. (sounds like the judge is looking for this already in asking how healthy your other children are)

It will take a little time, but just gather up all the information you can and present it all together. If the teacher can give a statement as to the childs behavior and performance that would be helpful as well. They aren't going to want to say anything that points to one parent or the other though. Maybe some statements from your other children's teachers as well could be helpful.

I'll actually ask my sister as well if she has any helpful information for your situation. Her divorce wasn't in washington, but from what i can tell from the state laws they list for child custody a lot of the information will still be relevant.

Just another example of the morons from the bottom 10% of the law profession that tend to practice family law and get on to the family law bench. IMHO of course.

Ummmmm the kid sleeps on the floor, does not bathe, does not go to school or do homework and this dip shit judge still think the best thing for the kid is be with the mother.

HOLY SHIT!!!!

We circumvented the family law court when the SpermIdiot had my SS sleeping on the floor during visitation while the unrelated spawn of his sperm recepticle of the month got the bed rooms and the beds.

We had our attorney outline exactly what information would go public when we took him to court to ensure that our son got a bed when at the SpermIdiot's house. We also outlined that we would change venue to TX where his CS would go up but ~400% if he did not immediately ensure that the Skid was appropriately cared for when on visitation. The SpermClan freaked out about the PI reports, IRS notifications that we would make about his under the table income, possible 400% increase in CS and immediately has SS staying at SpermGrandMa's during visitation where he had his own room and bed. Whenever the SpermIdiot would trade out the recepticle of the month to one with fewer children then SS would stay with BioDad.

We had them in court once with doctor's reports about my SS's staff infected buttocks and anus, diaper rash so bad his anus would bleed when we would try to clean him up upon return from visitation and doc reports and pictures of his bleeding anus, puss filled welt coverd buttocks, half inch long dirty cracked and split finger and toe nails, black crust covered waist line from his under clothes, black crust behind his ears, lice infested hair, black crusty goo under his arms, etc, etc, etc..... The family court judge just said "a bath will fix this and any child would be blessed to have the love of this family" Sooooo we threatened with civil court and scared the shit out of them by periodically threatening to change venue to TX where they would put his worthless ass in jail for child neglect and abuse. Conservative Williamson County TX judges have no use for idiot BioDad's or idiot Libtard (thanks for that accurate label Foxie) judges in the PAC NW (Oregon is also known as SpermLand in our household).

We finally got them so scared they did what we told them to do.

A few years ago my SS was going through the Custody/Visitation/Support file in our file cabinet and found the doctor reports and pictures of his bleeding anus, puss filled welt covered butt, finger and toe nails, lice, grunge, etc.... He asked what the pictures were of and we told him. He got very upset about the information and asked a bunch of questions. We told him the truth and he lost about all respect for his SpermIdiot and the SpermClan.

Even if the Libtard judges won't do their job there are ways to make damned sure that the blended family oppostion suffers for mistreating you kid/Skid. The key is to find what works to control your blended family opposition.

Threatening a full page in the news paper with blurred photographs of the kid's face close ups of the anus and puss filled welts and a write up about how the judge allowed the abuse or neglect of the child to continue at the hands of the oppostion (names, pictures, arrest records, etc.... included) can send a major message to both the court and the idiots that you will not tolerate their bullshit without applying some very humilliating consequences.

Check with your attorney before you buy the ad to make sure that you do it in a way to minimize any legal repricussions from the court and judge and the oppostion.

It is funny how these idiots will wilt when you hold a mirror in front of them and lay out exactly how you will inform their community of their neglegent and neglectful treatment of your kid/skid.

This works particularly well if they are well integrated in to Church or civic organziations in their community. They will do damned near anything to keep their friends, neighbors and paster from knowing the truth.

Fortunately for us our kid is now 18 and pretty much wrote off his SpermClan (with the exception of his three younger also out-of-wedlock half sibs by two other mothers). He stays in touch with his sibs but has nothing to say to his SpermIdiot or SpermGrandParents. It is very interesting that no adults from the SpermClan have made any attempt to contact him since he turned 18 and we picked him up from his final CO'd SpermClan visitation.

He has known (in an age appropriate manner) the facts about his SpermClan for many many years and will occassionally surf through our file cabinet to see the history of his mom and BioDad's relationship and the facts of the situation. He used to come home from visitaiton full of all kinds of SpermClan toxic bull shit. Every time he would come home mad at us about some crap they loaded him up with we would go to the cabinet, pull the facts and give him clarity.

Eventually he started hitting the file cabinet on his own and calling bullshit on his SpermClan any time they tried to bullshit him with their revisionist historical perspective or just plain lies.

Facts are not good or bad they are just facts and they can counter toxic blended family crap and even get some reality in to the very thick cranium of the Libtard judges and family law attorneys who try to stand in oppostion to the truth.

All IMHO of course.