NOOOOOOOOO, they are coming back :(
Bm popped in to my workplace yesterday to give me a "heads up" that she will be kicking SS (the pothead) out of her house Friday if he doesn't shape up. He does nothing, no work, no school and is now 18.
I told her I don't want him at our house if he is going to do nothing. When I got home I told DH the same thing, I do not want a pot smoking deadbeat laying around our house. I said I won't put up with it. I wouldn't with my kids, I won't with his. But he didn't say one single word.
Jokes on them though, I am not fu*&ing around this time. If he insists on doing nothing, I will put passwords on the internet, netflix, remove the cable box and his TV from his room .... funny, my kids were NEVER allow TV in their room.
I am not afraid to walk away from my husband anymore if he will allow this bullshit. I will not tolerate it. And I will make that very clear. No more games. My mind cannot take it.
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I agree with this ^^^ Just
I agree with this ^^^ Just because his mom kicks him out doesn't mean you need to accommodate this loser. If my Dh ever did this, I'd flat out tell him, you can leave and get a place with your son or stay here in our home but we won't all be living under one roof, no way no how. He's a grown man, if he becomes homeless-that's of his choosing.
I meant to post that exact
I meant to post that exact article yesterday and got interrupted (damn job).
What makes you all think he
What makes you all think he won't allow it? Mine's no different, he's either blind or retarded when it comes to his kids. Who are adults now that act like young teens. I sure as hell don't want him in our house, but I am sure DH will want to give him a chance, see how things go, etc etc.
^^SEE^^ this will happen! I
^^SEE^^ this will happen! I know it! Unless I put my foot down, and you all know putting your foot down means a fight with DH. URG!
I am sure DH will want to
I am sure DH will want to give him a chance, see how things go, etc etc.
He has already had his chance at BM's. If he had any plans on straightening up, he would do it before getting kicked out of her place.
He is an 18 year old pothead doing nothing. Your sanity is more important than providing him housing, considering he is losing his current housing by his own choice.
How many "chances" has he
How many "chances" has he had? I'm sure the BM gave him "chances," and he did not respect her. THIS is when divorced parents actually NEED to co-parent. He did not respect his mother's rules, so he loses the privilege to live with EITHER parent. No way would I allow him to move in. He's an adult and he made his own choice to move out on his own when he decided not to follow the rules.
No "get out of jail free card" at dad's. That just moves the same problem to a different house and he learns that he doesn't NEED to follow the rules because Dad will always bail him out. In the long run, your DH is crippling his son.