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Submitted by lillfiredog on Wed, 09/17/2014 - 8:13am

F*ck I love that answer. Hubs on nights, and BM texts me again to say SS18 is to move out if he can't follow the rules etc.... whatever. I then text DH to tell him BM said that, and that there will be no bullshit this time, we have rules too whatever and on and on. His response was Ya Ok.
F*ck you. That is all.

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Submitted by lillfiredog on Wed, 09/17/2014 - 8:30am

I know, I know!!! We cannot take him back, but we will because my DH will allow it and if I fight it I might as well nail my head to the wall, that is about how useful fighting will be. I know you guys want to reach through my screen and shake me... But it is was it is. So I will keep you posted, and I will keep having this wonderful, safe place to vent. I really, really need it.
My craft room is gonna get crafted to death to keep me sane. LMAO!

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Wed, 09/17/2014 - 10:06am

Since BM is texting you (not Dad) supposedly to give you all these 'heads up' about maybe going to kick out SS18, why can't you just text her back your own 'heads up'?

'BM, I'm sorry to hear SS and you are still having issues. I need you to know though that regardless of what you do or don't do about SS18, FYI, he will not be housed here if you decide to follow through with your threats of giving him the boot. At age 18 it is neither one of our 'jobs' to house an adult who refuses to cooperate. '

So what would happen? Would she decide she has to get her kid under control because he'd have no where else to go, or would she just boot him to the curb? I don't see this SS ever getting his head out of his a** as long as the kid and parents know he'll have a home in one house or the other no matter how he behaves. Maybe letting her know one home is 'closed' and no longer playing the kid's games the kid and BM will work it out. It's easy for kid to be an a** as long as one parent or another is his safety net.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 09/17/2014 - 8:36am

Why is BM texting you?

I would text her back, "Why are you telling me this? SS needs to look for a place of his own if you are kicking him out."

She needs to know that your place is not an option. Your DH is obviously not going to make him follow any rules and BM is just testing the waters. Chances are, she is not going to kick him out if he has nowhere to go. And if she does, that is his own fault.

This is, what, the second time she has done this? I think BM is just wanting your DH to come to the rescue and take SS in. Make it clear that that is NOT happening.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Wed, 09/17/2014 - 12:36pm

^^^THIS

And then forward the same text you sent to your DH saying this is how you responded.

You need to put your foot down unless you want your DH to run your life FOR you. What are you scared of? Him getting angry? He'll get over it. He will get violent? Well, then you need to rethink your relationship.