I really need to develop some patience with my SD. Her BM is about to get out of jail and that will be the beginning of the end, if not right away, then shortly after. I just want to shake my SD and say, "forget about that woman!!! She doesn't care about you!" And SD is just so excited. I posted that BM talked to her on the phone and told her she wanted SD to come live "permanently" with her. I asked how SD felt about that and she said, "happy." Of course she is happy, that is her mother. Any 7 year old is going to love their mamma, especially if they have the best friend no rules mamma. This is our BM. I just want and need to be patient. I do want what is best for my SD, but that's where it gets fuzzy. What is best for her? I think that being with her mom, at least every other weekend if not more, would be best. I think that SD does need her mother, and that her mother gives her something that we cannot give her. I think it is love and admiration. Both my husband and I treat SD7 well, but, neither of us cares for her like her mom does. We don't have much patience with her, we don't coddle or adore her in any way. We expect a certain behavior from her. It's not a lot to ask, but compared to her mom, we might as well BOTH be the evil step parents. She has never said this to us, this is my observation.

BM has the chance to be a good parent and a good person when she gets out of jail. I really hope that she makes the best of it. I don't want to be there cleaning up the mess yet again.

My husband doesn't want to pay child support and that is his main reason for having SD with us. That might sound bad but it isn't really. I know he looks out for his daughters best interest. The support wouldn't be a lot, but it would be a lot for US. And BM doesn't pay any bills, she lives off of her mother. Any money we gave BM would surely go to drugs...unless she changes. And then maybe there can be a custody alteration? I don't know, but SD full time is starting to get on my nerves. I need patience. I do care for the child, but at the same time I just want her out of my way sometime! I feel awful for thinking this way.

And I know that when BM gets out of jail things are going to be a little bit crazy for a while.

Custody hearing in March, when she gets out. Let's see what happens. I -almost- wish that BM was a good enough parent to take custody, meaning, that we wouldn't have to worry about SD being over there or being in danger. I doubt it will happen in march though. I don't know when or how BM will petition for a custody change after that but I know she will. Especially because we petitioned for CS. haha...bitch. I would LOVE to see that b**** actually get a job and pay some money towards her kid. I would LOVE to see SD's face when her mommy is tired and just wants to sit down after a long day of work rather than being high on methadone and playing whatever SD wants all day! Both SD and BM are in for a rude awakening. My life though, it probably won't change that much other than having to deal with a slightly more annoying stepchild once her mommmmmmy gets back.